5 Ways to Lose Your Girlfriend

Most guys get dumped because over time they develop bad relationship habits and find themselves stuck in a cycle of bad decisions that simply drives women away. If you're currently in a relationship and fall into terrible mistakes as the 5 presented below, you may just be watching your girlfriend walk away very soon.


1. Not paying her enough attention
There is nothing that a woman hates more than lack of attention from her man. If you are not paying her enough attention or never show jealousy, she will get upset. Trust me, if you don’t give your woman the attention that she wants, she is going to find it from another man.


2. Showing no motivation
Women want men who have motivation to succeed in life and who have dreams of doing something rather than just being content where they now. A woman who truly loves you shouldn't hold your job against you; however, if you are happy with your fast food job and you don’t have any dreams of moving up on the job ladder, you may just have to say goodbye to your woman.


3. Being a habitual liar
If you keep lying to a woman, you will surely lose her. All women appreciate a man who presents himself as honest and trustworthy. Displaying behaviors like exiting the room when you get a phone call, not returning her calls, not answering random phone calls, emails and text messages in front of her and giving no legitimate reason any about any of these behaviors is a sure way to make a woman leave you.


4. Being preoccupied with sex
Women do not want to feel as though sex is all that men want from them, and they definitely aren't impressed by how many other women you've slept with, or how much your last girlfriend liked your techniques.


5. Not taking care of yourself
If you stop taking care of yourself and being the man that attracted her to you in the first place, her romantic respect and attraction to you will drop over time. Being a challenge to a woman in a relationship will keep the attraction high and she won’t leave you.

When She Needs a Break

It's difficult when the woman you love tells you that she isn't sure she wants to continue her relationship with you. Many women say they need to take a break because they just want to break up. She may have been thinking about things for a while now, but hasn't figured out a way to approach you to resolve them. On the other hand, she may not be entirely sure of what she wants to do.

If your girlfriend has asked that the two of you take a break from your relationship, it probably came from out of nowhere. Sometimes when a woman asks for a break it's because she wants to date other guys or she may have already been seeing another man and has been cheating on you behind your back.

There's also the possibility that she's bored, feels neglected or is just unhappy with the way you've been treating her. Getting to the point where she actually tells you what's wrong isn't always easy, which is why you need to be very careful with how you handle the situation when your girlfriend wants a break.

The fact that your girlfriend wants a break and not a complete breakup right off the bat means that she still values your relationship to some degree. Begging, pleading, or invading her space trying to talk her out of her decision is absolutely the wrong thing to do and will drive her away even faster. You can get her back by showing her that you respect what she wants. The key to getting her back is to stay strong. If you love her, give her exactly what she wants and show her that you respect what she wants, no matter how hard it may be for you.

Let her have the time and space she needs and don't give her a reason to completely cut ties with you. As hard as it may be, avoid calling, emailing and texting her completely. By you not initiating any contact for a while, your girlfriend will start to miss you and she'll be the one calling you. Even if your girlfriend has given you the thumbs up to see other people, don’t sleep with any other women until you are sure the relationship is completely over. Making the wrong moves while your relationship is already in jeopardy could cost you any chance of reconciliation.

When she is ready to contact you, let her know that you're willing to listen to her and allow her to open up and reveal to you exactly why she wanted the separation in the first place. If she repeatedly gives you random, unimportant complaints or no answer at all, realize that these are all signs she wants to break up with you altogether and leave the situation with your dignity intact. However, if she gives you an honest, direct answer about the relationship, perhaps you can fix it and save the relationship. Try to agree to make a pact to work through any problems rather than take a break.

By making a genuine effort to fix the problems that drove her away, you can not only stop the break up from happening--you can actually strengthen the future of your relationship together.

The Right Way to Apologize to Her

So you've screwed up pretty bad, and whether you think you're right or wrong, you know that you have to apologize to your girlfriend so you can get your relationship back on track. So how do you apologize to your girlfriend the right way? Here's some tips on how to apologize in a way that will bring a peaceful and lasting resolution:

1. Accept responsibility for your actions

Apologizing doesn't just mean saying you're sorry and forgetting it ever happened, so make sure you know what you did wrong, be willing to accept responsibility and remember that saying sorry means acting sorry. There’s no way a woman will believe you’re sorry if you still act like the situation is her fault--even when it’s clearly yours, so say you're sorry with as much sincerity as possible. And keep in mind that it's always better to apologize in person as apologies over the phone, e-mail or text aren't nearly as effective.

2. Reach out to her

In the heat of an argument, you're liable to say things you don't necessarily mean. So after the her that it was just a disagreement and that you're there to listen to her. Even if she criticizes you, try and show understanding, as you would want her to express the same thing while you're speaking. Express to her that although certain things about her bother or irritate you, you still love her and ensure her that your feelings for her could never change just because of a simple disagreement.

3. Make plans for the evening

Most women will be more likely to forgive you if at least some nice flowers are in front of them to soften the mood when you confess your transgression. Once everything has settled down, take the time to plan a quick activity to get your minds off the argument and to reassure your partner that you still care about her and that it's okay to move on.

Top 10: Unhealthy Relationship Signs

Many people have been in a relationship that was unhealthy at some point in their life. Being trapped in cycles of pleasure, pain, blaming, and reconnection is not healthy in any way; but, when it's all said and done, only you can decide if your relationship is healthy and whether or not you are happy in it. Here are 10 of the most common signs of an unhealthy relationship.


1. When it's time to spend quality time with your family, she suddenly becomes sick, stuck in traffic or experiences something major at work. She resents your family for taking up your time and may even forbid you from associating with them at all.


2. She wants you to be responsible for her happiness, childhood, moods or feelings.


3. She insists on talking about problems for hours (and even days) and just won't let things go.


4. She's overly critical of how you act. She can do no wrong, therefore everything is your fault. Thinking differently is normally discouraged and pressure to agree with her occurs regularly.


5. You feel as if you have to walk on eggshells around her. You can't speak your opinion because she always freaks out when you disagree. In these relationships, you probably will not get to have any input at all or you may be treated badly if you do attempt to contribute to any decisions.


6. You must let her know where you are at all times and justify where you've been and who you've been with. You have to call her and "check in" multiple times a day.


7. She restricts you from hanging out with your friends and you aren't allowed to have platonic female friends.


8. You've discovered that she secretly checks your email, internet history and your cell phone. When you confront her about these behaviors, she attempts to make you feel responsible for her suspicions.


9. When you try to break up, she threatens to harm herself. This type of woman may actually be in more need of a parent then a partner.


10. Communication with her is absent and could lead to continuing verbal abuse and even ridiculing. She loves to highlight your mistakes and simply ignores your success. She is never happy for you and deep down, you feel like you’ve lost yourself.

5 Signs She Has Emotional Baggage

Most men have run into women who've been hurt by men in the past and carry psychological damage and unresolved anger into their new relationships. Sometimes these women are still reeling from a bad break-up, a negative experience with a man and even physical abuse. Here are some signs that you're dealing with women with emotional baggage.


1. She avoids you for no reason
With women like this, it's always one step forward and 20 steps back. She will show interest in you and then suddenly become unavailable. You won't hear from her again for weeks, then out of nowhere, she'll reappear with a big smile on her face, ready to take up where you both left off like nothing ever happened.


2. The nicer you are, the faster she'll run
She reacts emotionally to the hurt in her past. She has all the normal urges to be with a good man, and truly wants to have a successful relationship, but as soon as her emotions are aroused, she gets scared of your niceness and runs away --usually right back into the arms of yet another emotionally-unavailable man who will only cause her more pain and heartache.


3. She says one thing and does another
A woman with emotional baggage will tell you that she loves you and that she has so much respect for you. Then she'll start treating you like crap, starting fights with you and screaming at you for no apparent reason. She'll tell you she's wants a commitment and wants the two of you to be together forever, then she'll cheat on you out of nowhere. If she gives off mixed signals like these, you can't take a woman like this at her at her word; You can only judge her on her actions.

4. She's a man hater

May women with emotional baggage are extremely angry at men and blame guys for all of their problems. They unfairly label all men as "cheaters", "abusers" and "dogs." Although many of these types of men do exist, women with emotional baggage won't admit that the real reason that they feel this way is because of the poor choices in men they have made in the past.

5. She has a history of being abused

Women who are victims of any kind of abuse are often emotionally unstable and withhold lots of inner pain, which shows itself in their romantic lives. Women who display emotional baggage in relationships are very erratic and are often on an emotional roller coaster. One day they'll enjoy lovemaking and the next day, they're not sexual at all. They may even freak out during lovemaking due to certain situations reminding them of bad memories.

8 Signs You're Moving Too Fast

Although finding love is based on each individual relationship and some people move quicker than others, some people move so quickly in new relationships that they become blinded by what they believe is true love. Here are some ways of determining if you're moving too fast in a relationship.


1. You call her before you give her a chance to return the FIRST call.


2. You're thinking about what your children will look like.


3. You stop dating other women and you're not interested in meeting anyone else although you've only been dating this woman for one month.


4. Your family and friends tell you their concern about how fast the relationship is going and how your life is changing.


5. When you show her all the signs that you're too needy and the woman you're dating tells you that she needs more down time for herself.


6. You forget about your friends. If you haven't spoken to, text, or even called any of your close friends, you might be falling too hard, too fast.


7. You to want to spend just about every waking moment with your new love to the point you totally neglect your own life and interests.


8. You've spent every single day with her for weeks, yet you don't know basic information about her that normally should have been covered in the first few dates.

5 Signs She's Not Trustworthy

Getting involved with a woman you can't trust can cause some serious problems in your relationship. Here are 5 of the warning signs that the woman you're dating may not be trustworthy.

1. She's dishonest with you and you catch her telling lies, or, she might just keep things from you to keep you at a disadvantage; that way, she can pick and choose what to tell you. She might withhold information from you and lie outright in order to maintain a sense power over you and to control the way you think or feel.

2. She constantly gossips about other people. When dealing with a woman like this, if you tell her your deepest secrets, she's going to tell everyone she knows.

3. Whenever you try to make plans with her to meet your family or get together with your friends, she makes up excuses to avoid meeting them. Also, she never brings up the subject of meeting her family or friends. A manipulative woman who tries this kind of trick likely has control issues and will continue to dominate you.

4. You would think that after a few dates, any normal woman that was sincerely interested in you wouldn't mind you calling her at home, but with this type of woman, most of the time you can't get in touch with her and she offers no explanation. You keep asking for her phone number at home and she refuses to give it to you.

5. She's always late for dates and offers no apology or explanation or makes up lousy excuses.