Monday, April 30, 2012
Figuring out that your girlfriend isn’t the one sounds like it should be a no-brainer, but plenty of guys get it wrong all the time. When you're in love, oftentimes it’s difficult to recognize the underlying signs that you're dealing with a toxic person. Next time around, if you aren’t sure if you should listen to that nagging feeling inside of you, maybe this list of red flags to look for in women will come in handy.
1. She doesn't get along with others
If she doesn't have many friends and is constantly fighting with family and other people, it might be a sign that your relationship won't last long.
2. She has poor hygiene
As a man seeking out the right woman, you don't have the time or the psychology degree to figure out why she lets her finger nails get and stay dirty, avoids shaving anywhere, displays unkempt hair, has bad breath and foul odor from her intimate areas. Think about it: if she neglects herself during the dating phase--the phase when you're trying to impress at all costs--imagine how bad it will get if you settle down with her.
3. She 's emotionally unstable
This type of woman has the emotional age of a young child and her emotions ricochet from wild, joyous passion to utmost sorrow. If she does things that are completely crazy, lacking rational thought and she takes actions with no thought about consequences, it's time to cut ties as soon as possible.
4. You catch her in lies
Lying is a big red flag. If your girlfriend lies about her whereabouts, background, age, health situation, the identity of the mysterious caller on her cell phone and is always receiving texts from other guys, consider the prospect that she is playing you big time.
5. She has "Daddy Issues"
This is often a sad result of a woman's poor relationship with her father and modern-day divorce statistics. These women grow up expecting the worst from men and blow up over minor screw-ups because your mistake reminds her of her father’s poor parenting. They also crave attention and enjoy the rush of developing sexual tension from any and every male figure and have tons of emotional baggage.
6. She loves to party (without you)
This type of woman can’t figure out why you would be upset at the idea of waiting up for her while she is out partying all night with women at bars, drinking herself into a stupor. A woman like this maybe carefree and wild at first; however, once you take a closer look, you'll realize that her entire life is a party and most nights will end with her puking in your car.
7. She has no goals or ambition
When a woman doesn't have her own direction in life, it's more likely that she will be over-dependent on the relationship to keep her afloat. Once you realize that she has no goals whatsoever, no income and cannot or will not hold a job, it's time for you to run for the hills.
8. She's extremely jealous and obsessive
If she feels threatened when you discuss your previous relationships, gets upset every time you try to be cordial with another female, and refuses to accept that you have female friends, get away from her and don't look back.
9. She is overly flirtatious with other men
It is perfectly normal for your girlfriend to like the way other guys look; however, if she is ogling every man that passes by, constantly touches other guys arms or laughs suggestively, something is wrong, and it’s not you.
10. She lacks intelligence
Looks can take you a long way and she might look amazing in everything that she wears, but once a conversation gets going and you realize she's intellectually challenged, you've got serious problems, my friend.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Red Flags Women Look For.
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Women are more approachable and less suspicious when they meet guys through the course of a regular day and in an atmosphere when they feel comfortable and safe. So if you're currently frustrated by the lack of available women in your life, here are 5 positive habits you can learn that will allow you to naturally fit in and get noticed by women.
1. Go places where women hang out
One of the best ways to meet women is to position yourself to be noticed and let them come to you. You have to go to places where women hang out and return to on a regular basis, i.e., health clubs, libraries, yoga classes, cooking classes, special interest groups, etc.. These are places where conversations are easily started and you can casually interact with women and let them get to know you.
2. Maintain a good appearance
Sure, women like men to be men, but they don’t want you to be a caveman. Most good looking women take notice to and find themselves attracted to a man who takes pride in his appearance and takes care of his body. Proper grooming shouldn't be something you only bother with when you're going out; it should be an indispensable part of your routine.
3. Know how to introduce yourself
Here's an area where a lot of men blow it, that's why it's a habit you should start working on.The trick to making the first move and introducing yourself to women is to always exhibit confidence, a good sense of humor and show her that you are self-assured but not pushy. Keep the initial conversation light and breezy and establish a rapport with the woman you're talking to. Refrain from just talking about yourself and concentrate on being a good listener.
4. Offer help and be chivalrous
Chivalry is about respecting women. When you go out to various places, doing things like holding the door for a woman with an armload of groceries or giving up your seat on the bus to an lady shows women that you possess qualities such as courage, honor, and loyalty and that you are decent guy who is worthy of attention. We're not trying to suggest that respecting your elders or opening doors should be done just to meet women, but consider that a beautiful woman could be watching you every time you're rude or curse someone in public or lose your temper.
A man with a smile on his face is more approachable than a man with a frown. Your smile tells women that you're a friendly person who is open, friendly and relaxed on the inside. The act of smiling triggers good feelings in women and can be your best weapon to let them open up to you.
Sunday, April 15, 2012
A woman will only have true passion for a man when she thinks she is capable of losing him. On the other hand, once she thinks that you are easily attainable, your value drops big time and that same passion will slowly disappear.
In the dating game, a woman will always go crazy for that man for whom she had to work hard to get. In order for a woman to feel naturally attracted to you and perceive your value, you have to start working on ways to raise that rating of yours to a new level and make her realize that you are worth more then she may think. In order to get your value higher, focus on the following four points:
1. Make yourself scarce
If you're the type of guy who is an open book, hangs around all the time or doesn’t wait long enough to call a woman back, there’s no motivation to make her come after you. For a woman to value your presence, you have to make her put some work into hanging out with you.
Decline or ignore any first advances or invitations you receive from a woman and make yourself appear busy and in demand. Tell her something like, “Oh, you want to hang out on Saturday night? Geez, I don't know. I have this other thing going on, and I don’t know if I can get out of it.” By being a challenge to women, you’ll leave them wanting more and you will be perceived as scarce and hence, more valuable.
2. Stand up for yourself
Men that do not stand up for themselves lower their value because women perceive them as desperate, needy and eager to please. To increase your value, let a woman know politely that you are upset if she does things that anger you. Furthermore, let her know that you have strong morals that you stand by and if they are not followed, you will not hesitate to end a relationship and kindly escort her out of your life without hesitation.
3. Be intriguing
Women want men who can offer them intellectual stimulation. Being intriguing is a key element in attracting women because it gets them thinking about you when you’re not there and gets them frustrated--in a good way! And as they try to figure you out, they’re investing more and more time thinking about who you are, what you do, what you're like, etc... The more and more intrigued a woman becomes, the more she'll feel like you are a riddle she HAS to solve.
4. Increase your social proof
Social proof plays a crucial role in getting women to look your way and is a strong force that can increase your value in just about any dating situation. When you go out to various places, engage in small conversations with friends and acquaintances and don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to people you don’t know.
By conveying a message that you are a cool and interesting guy who has a lot going on in his life and is worthy of attention, a woman will begin to wonder “who is this guy and why does he seem so popular with people?” She will then become so curious she’ll think you could be someone really interesting, hence someone she should meet.
Sunday, April 8, 2012
One of the easiest ways to win a woman over is by making her smile through thoughtfully spoken words and doing something intentional to show her a little bit of appreciation and love. So, if your relationship is slipping into a funk, or you just want to make it more fun, here are 10 of the best ways to put a smile on your girlfriend's face.
1. Being chivalrous
Be a gentleman; hold doors open for her, be polite and be helpful. Ask her if she's cold when it's cold out and have a jacket or a sweater handy so you can give it to her.
2. Remembering important dates
Remembering birthdays, anniversaries and other milestones is a big deal with women. These important dates are also opportunities to show her how special she is to you.
3. Leave her romantic notes
Slip some romantic notes into your girlfriend’s handbag. She is sure to smile at the words when she reads it later.
4. Tell her how beautiful she looks
Don’t wait for a special occasion to say the words and it will make her day.
5. Introduce her to people that matter to you
Show her that you're proud to be with her by introducing her to people that are important to you when you're out.
6. Appreciate her attempts to look good for you
Make sure you pay attention to details such as hair, nails and new looks that she might try out. If your girlfriend has taken pains to dress up for an evening out, be sure to notice it and tell her she looks amazing. The compliment will surely bring a smile on her lips.
7. Send her flirtatious text messages
Being playful, sexual, and engaging her imagination with text messages will bring a few light moments on a busy working day and surely make her smile.
8. Send her flowers at work
Women LOVE getting flowers, especially at work, and receiving a lovely bouquet from you for no reason at all is certain to bring a smile on your girlfriend’s lips. Having flowers delivered to your wife’s workplace will make the women around her jealous, and what’s more she will be secretly thrilled to get their envious glances.
9. Encourage her ideas and aspirations
What is important to her should be important to you as well. If you show an interest in what's important to her, you'll keep her smiling and feeling good about her dreams.
10. Make her laugh
A sense of humor usually tops a woman's attraction wish list and is one of the best ways to turn her on. A woman who finds herself laughing along with your great sense of humor is a girl who is more likely to fall for your charms.
Monday, April 2, 2012
Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship; however, if you use words like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile to describe your girlfriend and your relationship, odds are you’re dating an emotional bully. Life is too short to waste time in this kind of relationship, so you need to run for the hills if your woman holds more than one of these attributes at any given time on a continual basis:
1. She creates constant chaos
She’s addicted to conflict and seems to get a rush from the adrenaline and drama. She deliberately starts arguments and conflict to keep you engaged or as a way to get you to react to her with hostility so that she can accuse you of being abusive and she can play the victim.
2. She constantly puts you down
She uses verbal assaults and constantly employs tactics such as name calling, criticizing, threatening, screaming, sarcasm, and humiliation as well as exaggerating your flaws and making fun of you in front of your friends, family and even your children.
3. She has constant mood swings with unpredictable responses
One day she's your best friend, the next she won't even speak to you. One minute she'll love you and the next she'll be picking fights or screaming at you for some imagined transgression on your part. Then the cycle repeats itself, again and again.
4. She makes you feel like you can never do enough
She'll keep reminding you of the areas you're lacking and destroy your self-confidence by saying that you don't love her enough, you're not romantic enough, you're not smart enough to figure out her needs or that you don't make enough money to satisfy her. She puts you in no-win situations with her endless list of demands that no one mortal man could ever fulfill.
5. She constantly blackmails you
She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She threatens to deny you of physical and emotional nurturing, withhold affection and sex, abandon you, and even end the relationship if you don’t play by her rules. She plays on your fears, vulnerabilities, weaknesses, shame, compassion, and other “buttons” to control you and get what she wants.
It's your choice if you wish to maintain a relationship with someone who acts like this, but it's important to be aware of these behaviors: they are all signs of an unhealthy relationship, and a lifetime of tolerating this behavior is a miserable existence.