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Tuesday, July 2, 2013
Whether you’ve been dating for a month or a year, if things are going well with your girlfriend, she has wondered at least once or twice whether you might be marriage-worthy. While the answer isn’t going to be identical for everyone, there are definitely some must-have traits that a woman looks for when it comes time to dedicate herself to one single man. Here are 10 signs you're husband material.
1. You don't notice other women
The last thing a woman wants is a husband who is always looking in the other direction. Now, this doesn’t mean that you need to literally ignore women. It means that you shouldn’t relate to these women in a way that suggests attraction.
2. You have sensitivity
Women want to marry the type of man who can let down his guard around her and show his soft side; however, this doesn’t mean that she wants you to cry at chick flicks. It means that you're sensitive enough to understand your emotions, acknowledge them, and communicate as much as necessary.
3. You've got your stuff together
You're smart, live on your own, know how to cook, have a steady job, and you're independent both financially and emotionally. While your woman shouldn’t expect you to buy her everything under the sun and pay all of her bills, you should be able to provide for yourself and help her along the way if necessary.
4. You genuinely care about her well-being
You listen and remember when she tells you what makes her happy and go out of your way to accomplish it. You take her views and opinions seriously and are willing to sacrifice for her.
5. You're not commitment phobic
You're not at all hesitant about introducing your woman as your one and only and you have no negative self-beliefs about commitment, love and relationships.
6. You're protective of your woman
You make your woman feel safe, secure, and cared about and your attitude around her is consistent. She knows that deep down if anything were to ever happen to her, you’d be right there to protect her.
7. You practice humility
You are mature enough to admit when you're wrong, apologize and really mean it.
8. You can make her laugh
You're able to see and appreciate the humor in everyday life, which is a great quality in a mate. Mutual laughter is an essential component of a strong and healthy marriage.
9. You've introduced her to your family and friends
You're committed to making sure she feels included in all parts of your life because you are proud of the relationship you have with her. You're not only serious about your relationship-- you want everyone in your life to know you're together.
10. You keep her happy in bed
You consistently please your woman in bed and the intimacy between the two of you is on point.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on the Top 10: Signs She'll Make a Good Wife.
Tuesday, June 25, 2013
Men who have a good relationship with their mothers tend to be more understanding and respectful toward women. But a man who is always catering to all his mother’s requests can be extremely irritating to women and often in more ways than one. Here are 4 reasons why women don’t like to be with mama’s boys.
1. Mama's boys can't take care of themselves
Mama’s boys are normally useless when it comes to taking care of basic things like laundry, cooking, and cleaning, since they’re used to their mom taking care of those things. Furthermore, women don't like to date men who need to be served and refuse to move out of their mom's basement.
2. No privacy
It can be extremely annoying, not to mention downright embarrassing, when a mama's boy makes the mistake of telling his mother every intimate detail of his relationship with his lady.
3. A mama’s boy can't make his own decisions
A mama’s boy will be so heavily influenced by his mother that he won’t be able to think of his own opinions and ideas unless he runs everything by her. It is a huge turn-off to women when they find that a guy will not make relationship decisions without his mother's approval.
4. They don't want to be second priority
In the case of a mama’s boy, the mother is the number 1 priority in his life. Yes, it is normal and expected that a man will treat his mother on special occasions. But ultimately, every woman in a relationship would like to be top priority in her man's life, and the mama's boy just doesn't make room for this need.
Check out our article on The Top 10 Things Women Hate About Men.
Sunday, June 23, 2013
Women love to talk, but when it comes to listening there are a few restrictions that need to be kept in mind. In the dating world, most women have discovered an unfortunate pattern with the majority of men and the asinine phrases they use. If you're seeking not to offend your dates and want to improve your chances with women, avoid the following words and phrases.
1. "Is it that time of the month?"
Just because she's annoyed with you for constantly leaving the toilet seat up or forgetting her birthday does not mean that she is PMSing. So unless she's actually holding a box of tampons in her hand when you ask, don't ask this question.
2. Cheesy pick-up lines
While most guys have the best intentions in mind when using pick-up lines, most women don't like them and the only things you can be assured of using these bad one-offs is making a bad first impression, a slap in the face and a drink on your shirt.
3. "You're really gaining weight!"
A woman's weight is among the most delicate of conversational topics. If she’s put on a few pounds, don’t fool yourself that she doesn’t know that. She doesn’t need you to be a jerk and point it out.
This is the most hated word to the female ear because of the connotation of the word when used to describe her vagina along with its sleazy association with female desire.
Perhaps it derives from the term “panties in a wad” which women find extremely sexist. Or maybe the word “panties” makes women feel like they are being talked to like a little girl. Do not refer to them as her panties--call them lingerie or underwear.
6. Hey [gorgeous, baby, mama, boo, etc...]
Most women do not respond well to strangers who start off by calling them baby, gorgeous, beautiful, sexy, babe, dear, or any other condescending and objectifying terms that so many guys use on their initial contact.
7. "Do you like me?"
Using this phrase can shut a woman’s attraction switch off permanently. Asking a woman a question like this is the exact opposite of being confident. So don’t ask, just assume she likes you, and go from there.
8. "My ex used to love it when I..."
You basically just admitted that you’re not over your ex, and you’re comparing every woman you meet to her. This is one of the most aggravating things you can do to a date, not to mention being a major turn off.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Things Women Love To Hear.
Wednesday, May 29, 2013
Nearly everyone has a cell phone these days and many relationships begin to evolve through the use of text messages. Sadly, the average guy out there doesn't know how to woo a woman over text messaging and ends up making several key errors that kills attraction. Here are 5 mistakes to avoid when you’re texting a girl.
1. Sending dirty texts too early
Getting too sexual over text too early will scare her off and hurt your chances when it comes to setting up a date because you run the risk of her thinking that you are only after one thing: sex.
2. Sending too many texts before getting a reply
Sending multiple texts one after the other without giving the girl a chance to reply to at least one of them only invites trouble. This habit shows that you are too eager and don't have much going on in your life. Give the girl some breathing space.
3. Sending texts that have no value
This is probably the biggest mistake guys make when they text women. Texts like "How's it going" or "What's up" do not make you stand out from all the other guys that are trying to text the same girl you are talking to. They do nothing more than put her on the spot to keep the interaction going and annoy her.
4. Texting first date plans
Never EVER set up a first date via text. Anytime you ask a girl to go out, you want to do it on the phone or in person. A girl deserves to hear your voice when you ask her out and she wants a guy who is willing to risk calling her, not a guy who hides behind a text message.
5. Texting long conversations
Text conversations are NOT the same as the actual conversations. When you insist on pointless chit chat just to keep the texts going, you can actually kill attraction and find yourself placed in the text version of the FRIEND ZONE. Instead, say more with less. Whenever you’re planning to text a girl, keep everything plain and simple. Start with the good stuff and keep it short and sweet.
Monday, March 25, 2013
Women who are open and free-spirited about their sexuality are among us, and while most men say they want a woman with some experience, they don’t want to feel like she’s got more miles on her then his SUV.
So, if you' re getting the feeling that your new girlfriend has been around, here are 5 signs to look for to determine if the "sweet and innocent" woman you are with used to be the kind of girl guys thought of as a "sure thing."
1. She's unusually savvy in bed
Love-making should be good and you do have women that have developed a marvelous sense of their sexual self from only a couple of partners and/or long-term relationships. However, if you’re with a girl and she does a move that is just too good, that quality for her may have come as a result of having made more than just a few trips around the bases.
2. She personally knows a lot of guys
It's not unusual for a woman to have a guy friend; however, it is not common to be constantly bumping into guys who your girlfriend knows and has obviously been intimate with. For example, the two of you go out and she says to you, “Hey wait, let me say hi to my friend Greg.” Another set of guys walk in. “Those are my friends John, Matt and Todd. I have to go say hi to them.” Another set walks in and she continues to know all the guys.
The guys appear comfortable speaking to both of you, or know her immediately by her name, or even know her but can't recall her name for some reason. Their conversation will be short, awkward and painful to experience. As you leave, the guys will look at you in a way that signals “We’ve already had your girl.” Afterwards your girlfriend will swiftly explain that “they're just old friends” and change the conversation.
3. She makes love as if on auto-pilot
Have you felt all romantic after a late-night romp with your current girlfriend, but she was left untouched by the experience? If she is too mechanical, the dirty talk is flaccid with phony excitement, she wants to please herself, or please you and then be done with it, or seldom has interest in cuddling or the like, it is a good indication that you are one in a long line and she's had her fair share.
4. She knows a lot about condoms
It's a great thing for women to protect themselves. We're talking about the girls that know just a little too much about condoms and say things like: “That brand has a higher risk of breaking”, or “don’t flush it because condoms clog my toilet.”
5. She routinely gets tested
An obvious sign that she's been around in the past and has likely been with various partners is that she routinely gets tested for sexually-transmitted diseases.
If you discover that your girlfriend has been around in the past, don't jump to conclusions. Ask her about the relationships, listen carefully to her tales and decide if there is a double standard in regards to the amount of women that you've been with. If she's has had many partners in the past, but loves you, treats you right and wants to engage in a serious relationship, should it really matter?
Check out our article on the 5 Traits of a Great Girlfriend.