Wednesday, December 12, 2012

8 Things Women Don't Want To Hear In Bed

While it’s easy to say all the right things in the bedroom, there are also some utterances that will bring the action to a serious halt make a woman put her pants back on--fast. Whether it’s a first-time hookup or long-term relationship, here are just 8 things to never, ever, ever say to a woman in bed.

1. “Who’s your daddy?”
When a woman is getting it on with you,  it's a total turnoff to hear a creepy cliché that instantly makes her think of her dear old dad.

2. Another woman’s name
Yes, she knows you have had intimate moments with other women, but every woman wants to think she is the only one. If you make this huge mistake, be extremely apologetic and be prepared to do whatever it takes to prove to her that she's the most beautiful, intelligent and sexiest woman you have ever met.

3. “Shh! Can you be quiet?”
Do you really want her to quiet down after she's turned up the volume to let you know how good it feels or that you’re just totally blowing her mind?

4. “My ex used to love it when I...”
Talking about your prior sexual encounters is a deal breaker for a lot of of women. She doesn’t need to hear about it, and if you bring it up, she’ll feel threatened and jealous.

5. “We’d better hurry, I have to be out of here by 9:00.”
Telling a woman that you’re in a rush and that you don’t have much time to work with is a major mood-killer. Furthermore, making a such a flippant comment followed by a mad scramble for your boxer shorts is sure to freak women out.   

6.  “Well, that was fun.” 
When a woman sleeps with you for the first time, she can’t help but wonder if she's just another notch on your bedpost. Making deflating comments such as, "thank you," or "that was fun" means that you just had a sexual transaction (a hookup) and not an emotional connection.

7.  “You're almost as good as my last girlfriend.”
Every woman wants to think she is great in bed. Making a statement like this will blow her mind out of control and bring up certain questions, like, “Do you think about her while you are having sex with me?” and “Do you wish you were with her?”

8.  “Do you smell something funny?”
All girls have a distinct odor, and unless she has some sort of infection the smell is probably not a 'bad' smell. Women tend to be very self-conscious about their 'smell' and the only thing you will accomplish by telling her that she stinks is destroy her self esteem.

 Interested on the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Things Women Love To Hear.

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Top 10: Signs Of A Healthy Relationship

Understanding what constitutes healthy relationships can help you make changes that lead to new heights of intimacy, happiness and fulfillment. No relationship is perfect, but here are 10 standard elements that should exist in all healthy relationships.

1. There is mutual respect between partners

A true sign of a good relationship is mutual respect between partners. It means that you respect each others’ individuality and make the most of your differences.

2. You trust each other
Each partner has faith in the other to be emotionally available when needed and you feel a genuine sense of safety and security in the relationship.

3. You appreciate each other

Both of you feel appreciated in the relationship and neither you or your partner feel unappreciated or taken for granted. You praise each other, offer compliments and use creative ways to show you care.

4. You can be honest with each other

In a healthy relationship, both partners display honesty and integrity from the start and maintain it throughout the course of the relationship. This means being honest in everything, and not telling those little white lies that can lead on to bigger, and more defining lies.

5. You support each other

In a healthy relationship, each person is interested in what the other is doing and there is a balance between giving and taking. Both partners are available for each other in a time of need.

6. You can spend quality time apart

In a healthy relationship, you shouldn't feel suffocated or controlled by your partner. Healthy individuals have their own friends, family members, interests and opinions outside the relationship. This also means letting her have a girls' night or her letting you hang out with your friends.

7. You have a good sex life

You're both okay with how often you have sex, how you have sex, where you have sex...and there's mutual participation. Sex is not withheld as a punishment and both partners feel safe enough to express their sexual desires without worrying that their partner will force them to do things they're uncomfortable with.

8. You manage conflict well

Contrary to what some may think, a healthy relationship doesn't mean you're happy 100 percent of the time. In a healthy relationship, you should be able to resolve your differences without blaming or belittling the other person. Instead of just avoiding arguments, healthy couples know how to handle them when they inevitably do come up.

9. There is good communication
If you are in a healthy balanced relationship, you should be able to listen to your partner and be able to support them without letting your own feelings get in the way. Both partners share details of their daily lives to strengthen their emotional bond and spend time together and learn about each other’s thoughts and ideas.

10. You truly feel happy

In a good relationship, both the partners are happy to be with each other and enjoy the relationship. You laugh with your partner and have fun together. You don’t feel like you are pretending, or that you should be someone other than who you are.

Interested on the other side of the coin?
Check out our article on The Top 10 Unhealthy Relationship Signs.

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Top 10: Ways To Keep Your Girlfriend Happy

When it comes to relationships, most guys work too hard at trying to keep themselves happy rather than their girlfriends.
There are certain elements of dating that guys should never overlook. Being a good boyfriend is a lot of work, but what it all boils down to is appreciating your woman and making her feel good about herself. With that, here are 10 steps to keeping the lady in your life happy:

1. Listen to her

Most men don't realize that a woman's idea of communication means actually listening to what she has to say and understanding her as well as relating to her problems without judging her or providing unwanted advice. Listen and understand your girlfriend's deep inward emotion and spirit.

2. Always make her feel beautiful

Don't just tell her you think she's beautiful, or she'll stop believing you. You need to continually show her that you think she is beautiful with your actions. Buy her sexy clothes, take her dancing and ignore everybody else, woo her with sweet gestures and brag about her to others. Do whatever you can do show her that she's the most gorgeous creature you've ever laid eyes on.

3. Know how to please her in bed
A good boyfriend must satisfy his woman's every romantic need not by making love just for the sake of it, but by being passionate about it. Show your partner the emotional intimacy she craves. Communicate with her on every level and anticipate her desires and needs.

4. Make her feel important
You have to understand that she's an equal part of the relationship, so appreciate her company and remember what is important to her. Look her in the eye and tell her what she means to you. Point out all the ways she is different from your past girlfriends and let her know there can be no substitute for her.

5. Challenge her to be better

You can naturally gain a special place in your woman's life by helping her find what she wants in life and make her understand and believe how important her happiness is to you. Help change the way she sees the world and help her stand out and live a happier life. The fact that you care that much about her well-being will make her want to keep you around longer.

6. Pay attention to details

Did she suddenly change her hair color, shed a few pounds, or buy a new outfit? These are all things you need to take note of; most women instinctively flock to attentive guys with keen eyes.

7. Be spontaneous

Once things become predictable in a relationship, things become boring--and once things become boring, the relationship is essentially over. Mix things up a little and surprise her with flowers or hidden love notes, whisk her away to an unplanned romantic weekend and call her for no other reason than to simply say "I love you."

8. Make her laugh

Not only will showing off your great sense of humor get a girl to laugh--it's bound to ensure that both of you enjoy your time spent together. A sense of humor usually tops a woman's attraction wish list and is one of the best ways to turn her on.

9. Don't take her for granted

Women want a man to be someone that makes them feel happy, secure and loved and don't want to deal with insensitive remarks, little hurts and frustration in a relationship. Let her know that you do appreciate her doing things for you.

10. Be chivalrous

Show respect for your girlfriend by being a gentleman. Even if you have been together for a while and chivalry has fallen by the wayside, revive it by opening doors for her, pulling out her chair at the restaurant, helping her with heavy bags, etc...

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on the 5 Traits of a Great Girlfriend.

Friday, August 31, 2012

5 Signs You're Her Backup Guy

We define the "backup guy" as
a guy who is more than a friend, but less than a boyfriend. He's the safe, terrifically nice guy who’s always surrounded by women that complain to him about the cold-hearted losers they're dating. He's the boyfriend substitute women call upon when all other options vanish. He's always surrounded by women who want to date someone just like him-- except they won’t date him, for whatever reason.

The following 5 signs are all giveaways that you’ve fallen into the “backup guy” trap. With a quick perusal of the list below, you should be in a good position to decipher when to continue your pursuit and when to walk away with your dignity intact.

1. She rarely return your calls

If a girl is attracted to you, she should be calling you at least once for every three times you call her. However, if you don’t hear from her for weeks or months at a time, and all of a sudden she wants to hang out, take it as she’s just bored or is between boyfriends and there’s no one else to call.

2. She regularly cancels at the last minute

It is certainly fair to cancel plans occasionally for a legitimate reason, but if she flakes on you consistently and doesn’t try to be flexible with her schedule to free up time for you, it shows that she holds little respect for you at and that she doesn't want to commit in case something better comes up.

3. She teases you along with the simple intention of keeping you around

She romantically teases you along with things like "accidental" kisses with the simple intention of keeping you around so you'll always be there to rescue her. She even allows you to sleep in her bed so she can talk to you all night long about her feelings.

4. She tells you what a great boyfriend you'd be... for some lucky girl

This is basically like saying "you have all the qualities I'm supposed to want in a guy, but for some reason I find you sexually repulsive."

. She talks about other guys while you are with her
She asks you for advice about different men she’s attracted to and constantly tells you about all her problems with them. When a woman you're interested in becomes comfortable enough to openly talk to you about all her problems with other men and asks you for advice about the guys she’s attracted to, she doesn't see you as a potential lover--You're in the FRIEND ZONE.

4 Signs She'll Break Your Heart

At the start of a new relationship, it's easy to overlook the clear cut signs that she’ll break your heart because of genuine attraction, excitement or just the fact you’re getting some action. However, with the majority of relationships destined for failure, you need to be selective and end a sour one before too much of your time and energy has been invested. For your benefit, here are 4 signs that she’ll break your heart.

1. She was already involved when she met you

The two of you hooked up when she was dating another guy or even worse--you're dating a married woman. While it can be easy to discount logic and naysayers when you're head-over-heels in love, but sooner or later you'll realize that you'll never be able to fully trust her. After all, how do you know she wouldn't start dating someone else? A cheat is always a cheat.

2. She's close with her exes

If you meet a girl that is able to stay good friends with her exes and gets a lot of calls from a lot of guys who all seem very close to her, she'll damage you. She may have some "friends with benefits" things going on with her exes, and the fact that she finds men so disposable means that she never really builds up strong relationships anyway. If you're looking for a serious relationship, never get involved with a girl who easily switches from viewing as lovers to treating them as friends.

3. She has deep-rooted issues
Whether it's problems with alcohol, drugs, or psychological issues, if there's something in her life that you’re always second place to, this relationship is not going to last long.

4. She's very secretive and lies a lot

If your girl isn't big on telling the truth, doesn't feel guilt over her constant lies, does whatever is "easiest" to get by rather than dealing with the truth and simply tells you what you want to hear, you should end it sooner rather than later.

Thursday, August 23, 2012

5 Reasons You're Just Friends

So you've been trying hard to get close to a girl, and the more time the two of you spend together, the more you realize how much you actually like her. You've gotten really close to her with all the hopes of piquing her sexual interest, but somewhere along the way, you may have taken a few detours that led you right into the friend zone. So why have you ended up as friends instead of her boyfriend? Here’s why.

1. You've never asked for a date

You secretly lust for her, but instead of asking her out, you behave like a friend and never let the girl know that you have more than friendly intentions on your mind. If you like a girl, you have to make it subtly obvious that you're romantically interested in her. If your "friend" does not know you want more, then she cannot give more. Put it on the table and see what happens.

2. You voluntarily became her best friend

You became her romantic counselor, listened to every cry and pity party moment about how her last boyfriend did her wrong. You began doing things her girlfriends do with her to the point she's lost all realization of the fact that you have a package down there. You've become another sexless thing she hangs out with all the time as a platonic friend. You chose to be her shoulder to lean on, knowing you wanted to be her boyfriend all along.

3. You're way too nice and accommodating

You may be a good catch, but you can give a woman too much of yourself too soon. If you're always available for a woman at the drop of a dime, and offer zero challenge to her, you will not spark that base desire within her.

4. She's afraid to take it to the next level

It is sometimes a risk to go from being friends to being "lovers". A woman could value the friendship so much that she fears losing what the two of you have. Your friend will have to work through her fear to change this.

5. She's just not attracted to you
This is the most common scenario. She may find you funny, charming and fun to be with --but she just doesn't feel any sexual chemistry with you. Sometimes it’s just the way it is -- you don’t want to hit the sheets with every woman you meet, do you? If she‘s just not into you, you have a choice to make: Either stay her friend or move on completely.

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The 5 Signs She Wants To Be More Than Friends.

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Top 5 Relationship Killers

Once you've found a great girlfriend, the last thing you want to do is lose her through a bad misstep. No one can list all the potential things that can destroy a relationship, but we can give you a heads up on the most likely causes of a breakup with these 5 relationship killers.

1. Cheating

Cheating is the ultimate relationship killer because once someone has cheated, regaining full trust is next to impossible. The initial betrayal of finding out that a partner has strayed is often enough to leave a relationship dead, and even if a couple does try to work past the cheating, the majority of couples won't survive.

2. Always placing your career before her

Your girlfriend is likely very proud of your career success and appreciates being with an ambitious man; however, she also expects you to make time for her. If you stay late at work every night, cancel dates for last-minute business meetings, or if you choose to constantly spend time with your co-workers after work, she will come to her own conclusions about your priorities.

3. Letting Yourself Go
If your girlfriend was attracted to you when you were wearing Italian suits, chances are that's what she likes, and she may not be attracted to you if you begin wearing nothing but holey sweatpants and football jerseys. Letting yourself go tells your girlfriend that she's not important enough for you to maintain your appearance and you were just putting on a facade to attract her.

4. Not making enough time for her
If you want to keep your girlfriend around, you have to find ways to make her feel special and important. You're not a bachelor anymore, so you will have to give up time watching the game with your pals in order to spend time with together with the lady in your life. Remember, if you don't pay attention to her, a lot of other men will.

5. Being controlling

People hate to have their freedoms limited by another person or persons. Controlling behavior such as blaming, anger, rage, violence, judgment, criticism and ridicule almost always results in resentment and emotional distance.

Dating Mistakes You Don't Realize You're Making

While some dating mistakes are obvious, others can be trickier to recognize. In fact, you may not even know you’re making them. So, if you feel as if you are somehow going off track with your relationships, but aren't really sure how, check to see if you are making any of these 5 dating mistakes:

1. Talking about your ex on your dates

Talking about your ex with your dates is never a good move. Women view men that can't stop talking about their ex non-stop as having unresolved frustrations and pent-up bitterness. You don’t need to go into details about each and every past relationship you’ve ever had or how you were wronged during any date. She also doesn’t need to know exact names, dates or all the gross details about you and your ex's sex life.

2. Sharing too much information

Don't give out your resume on the first date. Some of your past is straightforward and can be discussed right then and there; however, the first date is not show and tell time.

3. Having a narrow focus

Always dating the same type of women and expecting different results is a recipe for disaster. Branch out of your dating comfort zone and give a chance to those women you haven’t previously considered (think age, looks, profession, interests). Remember that dating only women that you think of as your type has gotten you exactly where you are right now--single.

4. Expecting too much too soon

Nothing turns a woman off and sends her running away faster than a guy who starts moving too fast and expects instant attraction, love and devotion, or even instant great sex after only one or two dates.

5. Giving up power

Lots of guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants; becoming too considerate, too helpful and too kind in an effort to seemingly align their lives with a woman’s wishes. Don't be one of them. Women don't respect pushovers and they don't feel attraction for "nice" guys who always kiss up to them.

Monday, August 20, 2012

8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid Dating

While every woman is looking for something different in a man, there are certain types of men that women go out of their way to avoid. And this is especially true during the early stages of a relationship, when a woman is trying to gauge a man's personality. Below are eight types of guys that women consistently stay away from.

1. The Financially Irresponsible Guy

A huge red flag is a financially irresponsible man with bad credit who's constantly buying things he does not need, overdrawing his bank account(s) and maxing out credit cards. Most women don't want to deal with a guy who can't seem to rustle up enough money for a latte, pay their bills on time, or spend his money wisely.

2. The Man-Child
This guy is clinging to his glory days when life was less complicated and responsibility was minimal. He’s obsessed with video games, frequently attends keg parties and considers Pizza Rolls one of the major food groups. These men are the ones who can’t keep a job, blame everyone else for their own stupidity and laziness, and are constantly outraged that the world is not giving them respect.

3. The Narcissistic Guy

One type of attitude guys have that women avoid is being too narcissistic and self-contained. Most women feel that this type of guy is obsessed with himself and would rather spend his time toning his muscles and looking good than on a date with them.

4. The Needy Guy

Women are not attracted to the type of man who needs too much support, validation, and constant reinforcement. The moment a man becomes too insecure and dependent in a relationship, a woman will run for the hills.

5. The Wandering-Eye Guy

This type of man can be the most aggravating for women to deal with because he's constantly looking at every female but the one he’s with. He makes inappropriate comments/gestures about women, ogles the bartender, the woman at the grocery store, even his best friend's wife, making the woman he's with feel inferior and unattractive.

6. The Predictable Guy

Women don't like the routine driven guy who does not like change, lacks spontaneity, and is predictable in all areas of his life from how he will react to situations, decisions he will make, the sex he will have, and the dates he will go on.

7. The Liar

This guy fabricates stories about about pretty much anything in hopes of getting laid instead of just being honest about his life or his desire for a casual fling. While the little white lies about past conquests, jobs, exes, qualifications, and experiences may seem harmless, most women don't want to deal with a guy who can't or won't tell the truth.

8. The Desperate Guy

The desperate man may have a strong want and desire to have a relationship; however, due to having little experience in the romance and dating department, his behaviors can indicate low-self esteem and a host of other issues that turn women off and can actually be viewed as creepy and disturbing.

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Types of Women to Avoid Dating.

Thursday, June 28, 2012

5 Behaviors Women Find Creepy

In the early stages of a relationship, it's surprisingly easy to give out a creepy vibe to women without even noticing. What can be perceived as regular behavior for anyone with whom you have an established relationship can range from obnoxious to downright frightening when displayed to a new woman you barely know. Here's a list of 5 behaviors that might trip the creep-meter for women who are just getting to know you.

1. Being unable to read her signs

You see an attractive woman across the room, so you try to catch her eye. You walk past her. You look at her. You even sit next to her and try to make eye contact. No luck. Your next move should be to take the hint that she noticed you and isn't interested. A man who refuses to accept this and continues engaging in a staring contest with a disinterested woman will make himself appear as as a potential stalker.

2. Aggressively trying to contact her

Many men seem to believe that they can prove their interest in a woman by chasing her down-- calling, texting, emailing, and following up on each unanswered message with more. While it's understandable that you want to get to know her better and you have many reasons for getting in touch with her, this behavior will only make you appear as a desperate man who is socially inept, insecure, and impatient. It's probably best if you initiate contact no more than two times without any initiative on her part to return the gesture.

3. Dropping by unexpectedly

If a woman tells you what time she gets off work or class, that is one thing, but paying attention to and noting her schedule without her being aware of it will only scare her off. No one wants to feel like they’re being watched like a hawk. A woman you've just met won't think it's very cute when you are always waiting for her at the same time outside her work or dropping off surprises on her doorstep. She will quickly realize how closely you pay attention to where she is and what she's doing, and will determine that you are a weirdo.

Mentioning sex at any point during the initial conversations
Most single women who've been dating for awhile want to filter out guys who are only after sex, so if you mention anything overtly sexual in your first few text messages, phone calls, or dates, you're going to be seen as a "typical" guy who is only fixated on sex and creep her out.

5. Invading her personal space
There's something about a guy assuming that he can move in close that women find so unappealing and creepy. It's probably not a good idea to move into a new woman's personal space until you understand her body language and get some signs that she is interested in that.

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

8 Signs She's Not Worth Dating

When it comes to choosing a potential mate, no one should ever settle for mediocrity, yet so often the women we date either hold us back, bring us down, or simply hurt us in one way or another down the road, in every sense of the word. That being said, here are 8 signs that your current love interest isn't worth dating.

1. She has a lack of intelligence
While many men have been conditioned to have an affinity for less intelligent women who are less challenging and opinionated, there are more pitfalls than you may think when dealing with a woman you can't have an intellectual conversation with.

2. She's all about drama and mind games

There’s a certain kind of woman who believes that acting out, extreme selfishness, entitlement, throwing tantrums, pathological jealousy and having narcissistic rages are normal and acceptable female behavior. They’re not. Do yourself a favor and drop her.

3. She can't hold down a job
A woman that can't hold down a job or always seems to have problems at work is usually lazy and just looking for a sugar daddy to meet all of her needs.

She's dishonest
Lying is a big red flag. We're not saying you should definitely call it quits if she has lied to you, but you should take this very seriously, especially if she has lied about her background, age, her health situation, etc..

5. She has drug and alcohol problems

You cannot have a healthy relationship with a woman who has obvious drug and alcohol problems. Do you really want someone who is a drunk or uses drugs to be the mother of your children? Think about it.

6. She's self-centered
If she spends more time talking about herself than getting to know you and the only feelings worth considering are hers, cut ties with her as soon as possible.

7. You have nothing in common
with her
You don’t need to have everything in common with her, but you do need something that connects the two of you. If you guys can’t seem to come together on anything, you need to part ways with her.

8. She's flaky

The flaky girl isn’t worth your time either. One day she loves you. The next day she's not sure. The third day she wants to have your children. The fourth day she needs some space. Give her as much space as she needs, and never come back.

Check out our article on The Top 10 Red Flags Women Look For.

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Top 10: Things Women Love To Hear

Do you sometimes find yourself struggling to find the right things to say to the lady in your life? If there's one thing that has always kept men wondering about women, it has to be figuring out what they love to hear. Whether you are in a committed relationship or wanting to take your relationship to the next level, here are 10 phrases that women never get sick of hearing.

1. "You're very smart."

Women want to be appreciated for their intelligence. By acknowledging her intelligence, you're communicating that you recognize her brains and not just her figure.

2. "You are the most beautiful woman I know."

Aside from making her feel aesthetically superior to other women, this remark will put her on a pedestal among her peers and give her an ego boost. She'll feel good about herself and will also feel less threatened by other women when they are around you. This phrase is particularly effective in long-term relationships, as you're assuring your woman that she's still hot.

3. "You're my best friend."

Want to assure her that you are the kind of man who's not just with her for her looks? All you need to do is to tell her that she is not just the love of your life, but also your best friend. Telling her how you feel above and beyond a sexual context will make her feel overpoweringly connected to you.

4. "I am so proud of you."

Telling your woman how proud you are of her for working hard to achieve her goals and showing your loving support will make her heart melt.

5. "You're perfect just the way you are."

This statement says that you've accepted her completely. Giving her an ego boost like that makes her feel cognizant about how much you openly and willingly accept her flaws.

6. "I don't want to be with anyone else."

This expression of enduring commitment says that she has become an essential, indispensable ingredient in your life and that you couldn't live without her. This is a heavy line; it's not many degrees away from proposing to her, so only say this if you truly mean it.

7. "What do you feel/think about [anything]?"

Women love to express their feelings on every topic imaginable. Asking this question tells your lady that you respect her views and that you're genuinely concerned about her feelings and opinions.

8. "How was your day?"

Asking about her day assures that you're willing to lend her your pair of ears and focus on what she has to say.

9. "You're great in bed."

Praising her performance in bed makes her feel like she really knows how to satisfy you and indicates that you appreciate her performance between the sheets.

10. "I love you."
Few men realize or appreciate the power of saying "I love you." By saying those three magic words (when you really mean it), you're acknowledging an attachment to your woman and satisfying her most basic emotional need--to know how her man feels about her and to hear it. abuse the words. Remember--saying this just to smooth over mistakes or as a precursor to every word out of your mouth won't fill her with delight.

Sometimes it's not just about the words from a man's mouth, it is also about showing your love through your actions. Check out our article on The Top 10 Ways to Make Her feel Special.

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

5 Reasons Women Flake Out

Have you ever made plans with a woman and then 30 minutes before your date, she sends you a text saying “I totally forgot I have plans to meet my brother and can’t make it” or “I've been called in to work at the last minute. Maybe some other time?” This woman did not just "remember" she had plans. She used a lame excuse to get out of a meeting with you. Face it, you just got flaked on!

Although flaking is a fact of life for any guy who is putting himself out there in the dating world, women don't realize the frustration, annoyance and hurt men experience when they have a woman flake on them. So why do women agree to go out on a date, then never show up? Why do women give you their phone number, then never pick up when you call? Here are five main reasons why women flake on dates.

1. Someone or something else better came along

Women get hit on all the time and basically have an unlimited number of options, and there’s always the chance that she met another guy she was more attracted to. Or maybe it’s not even a guy, but something came up that's more appealing than going on a date with someone she doesn’t really know.

2. She's already involved with someone
Sometimes women will flake because they’re already in a relationship. Maybe she got caught up in the moment and cheating seemed like a good idea at the time, but after thinking about it, she started having second thoughts.

3. She didn't feel enough attraction to you
Sometimes a woman still won’t come out to meet you because she was never all that interested in you and therefore has no incentive to see you again.

4. She thinks you're creepy

For a woman, it may be a safety concern. If she feels an unexplainable feeling of discomfort and awkwardness toward you, she'll simply keep away from you altogether.

5. She was just a tease

Some women intentionally go out and give guys their numbers because they WANT guys they never plan to sleep with chasing them around. Some of the reasons these manipulative women engage in this ‘teasing‘ behavior is because it gives them wanted attention, an ego boost by impressing other women and assurance that they could in fact have certain men if they wanted.

Monday, June 11, 2012

5 Signs She's Made For You

At some point in every man's life, there comes a time when it’s time to find a good woman and settle down with her. It can often be hard to know if a girl is "right" for you, so here’s a list of 5 things to look for in a girl that could mean she’s the one to hang on to.

1. She's trustworthy

You don't have to think twice about opening up about personal matters and telling her intimate details about your life. She does what she says she's going to do, doesn't flake out, and she's proven that she will always be there for you through good and bad times, no matter what.

2. She makes you feel special

She makes you feel special and cared for by doing thoughtful, little things like holding your hand when you are out in public, telling you she loves you, hugging you, and listening to you, especially when you need her support. She also does special things for you like leaving you sweet love notes when you least expect it and taking you for impromptu dates to places you enjoy.

3. She makes you a better man

She knows you inside out and helps you bring out the best version of yourself. She's a great girlfriend who motivates you to achieve your dreams, talks about your potential, and inspires you to become the best man you can ever be.

4. You have great chemistry together

She is on your mind at all times and you can stare at one another and not say anything for hours. The two of you can laugh together and you share basic interests. You find yourself talking about her a lot and you feel alive and yet content when she is with you.

5. She loves you for who you are
Although there may be things about you that irritates her in everyday life, she loves you, plain and simple and doesn't want to change the essence of who you are. You can talk with her and feel like she isn’t judging you and you never have to try to impress her because you’ve already done that by just being you.

Interested on the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Signs You're With the Wrong Woman.

Monday, May 28, 2012

5 Signs She Wants To Be More Than Friends

So after a night of hanging out with one of your female friends, you started getting this nagging feeling that something's different. Has she started looking at and treating you differently, as if she's sizing you up? Have the things you both used to joke about, such as her physical flaws, become a sensitive subject for her? Has she started wearing a backless blouse and pulling out the 4-inch stilettos just to meet you for coffee?

The reason why she is now treating you less as a friend is because she is starting to see you more as a potential mate. Here are 5 signs that she wants to be more than just friends with you.

1. She's jealous of other women you talk to
If you are dating other women, most of the time she is cool with it, but suddenly she is being critical of them and sees them as some type of competition. So if you notice her getting an upset look on her face or steaming just because you're joking around with other women, you can be sure that she wants to become more than a friend.

2. She hangs on your every word

No matter what you are talking about, she'll be sitting at the edge of her seat, looking into your eyes longer and will be interested in what you have to say, even if it is about a topic she has no interest in. If she hangs on your every word that's a good indication she wants more attention from you and to give you more.

3. She no longer talks about other guys in front of you

If she suddenly stops talking about the guys she meets and dates, there's a good chance she's keeping herself available for you.

4. She makes excuses to hang out alone with you

If a woman is interested in you, she'll make an effort to have alone time with you. She will ask you to hang out and will isolate both of you from other people. For example, if you are at a party, she may suggest sitting out front where there are less people around.

5. She starts wearing more makeup and dresses better
around you
If you come over to watch a movie and you notice that her appearance is getting sexier by the minute and you're wondering what's the occasion, the truth is she wants you to take notice of her beauty and see her in a different light.

Sunday, May 27, 2012

8 Signs Your Relationship Is Over

Relationships can be very complex. They tend to start off fun and exciting; however, as time passes, your differences might become more serious and the relationship could take a turn for the worse. If you have the slightest doubt that your relationship is in trouble, these 8 signs should help you figure out if it's time to cut your losses and avoid wasting any more time in a dead-end relationship.

1. You often think about your life without her

If you find yourself constantly daydreaming about a bachelor's life, romanticizing past relationships, and thinking about meeting new women, these are all signs that your current relationship is doomed.

2. Neither of you can leave the past in the past

It's a common deal-breaker in relationships to keep bringing up past issues during arguments to use as ammunition against your other half. If you can't learn to forgive and forget – or your partner can't learn to forgive and forget a mistake that you have made – then it might be time to cut all ties and start fresh.

3. You don't communicate anymore
When you first started dating, the two of you talked about everything. Now, however, you can’t even be bothered to text, let alone call her and you've even started ignoring her attempts to contact you.

4. Sexual relations have stopped
Does your woman have no interest in having sex with you anymore? Does she always tell you that she's not in the mood or that she's tired or had a long day? If you can't remember the last time you got busy between the sheets, it’s usually an indication that the spark has gone and it’s time to move on to greener pastures.

5. You argue all the time

Sure, some amount of arguing is normal in relationships, but if you are constantly picking fights with one another and arguing and has become the only interaction the two of you have, it's time to move on.

6. There's a lack of effort

When you first met, you pulled out all the romantic stops. You loved to surprise her with cute love notes all the time, home-cooked dinner nights and picnics on the beach. Now, all you see are her bad qualities, you can’t even be bothered to arrange a date to keep the passion alive and you're actually happier just sitting at home watching TV by yourself.

7. The two of you spend more time with friends than each other
In a relationship, it's normal to spend time with your friends, but, if you see your friends more than you see each other, your relationship is in danger.

8. There's no more talk about the future

The two of you have started using “I” instead of “we” and neither of you are willing to talk about future plans together.

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

4 Reasons Why Women Fear Intimacy

Although almost everyone brings some emotional baggage to a new relationship; however, one of the most common though least talked-about issues is a woman's fear of intimacy. If you believe despite having an otherwise satisfying relationship, your girlfriend is somewhat apprehensive about coming close to you, here are four reasons why women fear of intimacy.

1. She has a poor body image

Every woman has an issue with some part of her body, such as her stomach, butt, wide hips or breasts; however, she may feel victimized by her own body and think that you will judge her imperfect body as harshly as she does. If she is self-conscious about certain body parts, and you happen to love them, tell her so often. Eventually, she'll feel less self-conscious and will let you take a closer look.

2. She's inexperienced
in the bedroom
Although many of today's women have enough experience to hold their own in the bedroom, there are still some women who don't have much or any experience when it comes to lovemaking. Even if she's not a virgin (yes, they do still exist), she may have only had one partner or a couple of short-lived relationships and the thought of being with someone completely new may scare her. Whatever the case, awaken her sexuality slowly and do all the sensual things way before you even think about engaging in the ultimate act of love.

3. She suffers from a broken heart

A woman could also be hesitant to give her heart away if it has recently been broken. Intimacy is synonymous with pain, and if her last boyfriend didn't treat her properly or cheated on her, she's probably in self-protect mode and only a great guy who she feels is trustworthy and not out to hurt her will be able to snap her out of it.

4. She has a traumatic past

Past dysfunctional relationships and romantic disasters may have also contributed to her lack of confidence and intimacy. An inability to open up may also stem from deeper, more serious wounds. For instance, a victim of domestic violence or sexual abuse may experience an aversion to closeness with men that is difficult to overcome. Under such circumstances, you need to check your sexual advances and wait for girlfriend to heal herself before she can be comfortable with you in an intimate setting.

5 Signs Of A Needy Woman

A needy woman can be among the most frustrating aspects of a man’s romantic life. The problem is, a lot of chicks have no clue when they're acting like the human version of Velcro. Whether her needy behavior is subtle or overtly obvious, it can cause a lot of unnecessary and exhausting drama and put a major strain on your relationship. Below are five signs that will help you recognize whether or not your dating a needy woman.

1. She wants to stay in touch all the time

A needy woman will blow up your phone with a gazillion calls and text messages along with excessive emails. She also expects you to call and text her multiple times a day. She needs to know where you're going at all times and will begin to feel restless and angry if you are late contacting her.

2. She wants your attention all the time

A needy woman feels like she deserves your attention at all times, even if your busy talking to someone else, working on something or just relaxing by yourself. She demands to be by your side as often as possible and hand-holding and nonstop body contact is mandatory. She's a controlling woman who feels as if she owns you and discourages you from spending time with your friends.

3. She thinks you don't love her as much as she loves you

A needy woman demands to analyze everything about your relationship and thinks that constantly bringing up problems in the relationship will make you a better man. She'll tell you that she feels like she's the only one trying to hold the relationship together, and if she doesn't see you wearing the shirt she bought you three months ago, she thinks that you don't care about her anymore.

4. She's constantly worried about being dumped

If you forget to say "I love you" at the end of a conversation, she thinks the relationship is coming to an end. Due to previous disappointments and painful experiences with men, she is a psychologically unstable individual who needs constant reassurance that you are still there and haven't dumped her.

5. She has no life of her own

She's afraid to have her own interests, always glues herself to you and follows you around all the time instead of doing her own thing. She wants to spend every bit of her free time with you and wears out her welcome rather quickly.

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The 5 Signs You're Being Needy.

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

5 Lies Women Tell

Why Women Lie
Make no mistake about it, gentlemen; all women lie in certain situations and your girlfriend is no exception. Sometimes she's only telling half-truths to keep the peace. Sometimes her motives are to protect her own feelings or to cover her tracks. Whatever the case, certain lies occur much more frequently than others. Here are five lies women commonly tell men.

1. "It doesn't matter how much you make."
It does matter how much you make. People do have to make a living, and they need to have some sort of means of support. Women love the feeling of being taken care of, and they want a guy who is financially stable and independent.

2. "I'm not mad at you."

This lie is one of the most frequently used in relationships, and even if she pretends that she doesn't care, her eye rolling and passive-aggressive behavior are dead giveaways that she's angry with you. A woman expects you to magically predict when she doesn’t like something you've done, even if she’s hiding it. So, unless you’re a mind reader, you’ll have to listen to your woman and get her to actually talk about what’s bothering her.

3. "I wouldn't change anything about you."

Although she puts up with you day in and day out, do you really think there is nothing about you that she wouldn't change? Soon enough the truth will come out and she'll be re-sketching better versions of you.

“I’ve slept with X number of guys.”
The reason a woman will omit a few escapades from her history is because she is ever fearful of being seen as “easy.” She wants you to make her feel confident that your opinion of her doesn’t lie with her sexual history—and that no matter how many guys she has been with in the past, she's still pure in your eyes.

5. "I love sports too."
Granted, some women do actually enjoy sports, but more than likely, she's making a desperate attempt to gain your attention and connect on with you on a “guy level. Chances are if you ask her any details about stats or players, she'll come up short.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Top 10: Red Flags To Look For In Women

Figuring out that your girlfriend isn’t the one sounds like it should be a no-brainer, but plenty of guys get it wrong all the time. When you're in love, oftentimes it’s difficult to recognize the underlying signs that you're dealing with a toxic person. Next time around, if you aren’t sure if you should listen to that nagging feeling inside of you, maybe this list of red flags to look for in women will come in handy.

1. She doesn't get along with others
If she doesn't have many friends and is constantly fighting with family and other people, it might be a sign that your relationship won't last long.

2. She has poor hygiene
As a man seeking out the right woman, you don't have the time or the psychology degree to figure out why she lets her finger nails get and stay dirty, avoids shaving anywhere, displays unkempt hair, has bad breath and foul odor from her intimate areas. Think about it: if she neglects herself during the dating phase--the phase when you're trying to impress at all costs--imagine how bad it will get if you settle down with her.

3. She 's emotionally unstable

This type of woman has the emotional age of a young child and her emotions ricochet from wild, joyous passion to utmost sorrow. If she does things that are completely crazy, lacking rational thought and she takes actions with no thought about consequences, it's time to cut ties as soon as possible.

4. You catch her in lies

Lying is a big red flag. If your girlfriend lies about her whereabouts, background, age, health situation, the identity of the mysterious caller on her cell phone and is always receiving texts from other guys, consider the prospect that she is playing you big time.

5. She has "Daddy Issues"
This is often a sad result of a woman's poor relationship with her father and modern-day divorce statistics. These women grow up expecting the worst from men and blow up over minor screw-ups because your mistake reminds her of her father’s poor parenting. They also crave attention and enjoy the rush of developing sexual tension from any and every male figure and have tons of emotional baggage.

6. She loves to party (without you)
This type of woman can’t figure out why you would be upset at the idea of waiting up for her while she is out partying all night with women at bars, drinking herself into a stupor. A woman like this maybe carefree and wild at first; however, once you take a closer look, you'll realize that her entire life is a party and most nights will end with her puking in your car.

7. She has no goals or ambition

When a woman doesn't have her own direction in life, it's more likely that she will be over-dependent on the relationship to keep her afloat. Once you realize that she has no goals whatsoever, no income and cannot or will not hold a job, it's time for you to run for the hills.

8. She's extremely jealous and obsessive

If she feels threatened when you discuss your previous relationships, gets upset every time you try to be cordial with another female, and refuses to accept that you have female friends, get away from her and don't look back.

9. She is overly flirtatious with other men

It is perfectly normal for your girlfriend to like the way other guys look; however, if she is ogling every man that passes by, constantly touches other guys arms or laughs suggestively, something is wrong, and it’s not you.

10. She lacks intelligence

Looks can take you a long way
and she might look amazing in everything that she wears, but once a conversation gets going and you realize she's intellectually challenged, you've got serious problems, my friend.

Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Red Flags Women Look For.

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

5 Habits That Let You Meet Women

Women are more approachable and less suspicious when they meet guys through the course of a regular day and in an atmosphere when they feel comfortable and safe. So if you're currently frustrated by the lack of available women in your life, here are 5 positive habits you can learn that will allow you to naturally fit in and get noticed by women.

1. Go places where women hang out

One of the best ways to meet women is to position yourself to be noticed and let them come to you. You have to go to places where women hang out and return to on a regular basis, i.e., health clubs, libraries, yoga classes, cooking classes, special interest groups, etc.. These are places where conversations are easily started and you can casually interact with women and let them get to know you.

2. Maintain a good appearance
Sure, women like men to be men, but they don’t want you to be a caveman. Most good looking women take notice to and find themselves attracted to a man who takes pride in his appearance and takes care of his body. Proper grooming shouldn't be something you only bother with when you're going out; it should be an indispensable part of your routine.

3. Know how to introduce yourself

Here's an area where a lot of men blow it, that's why it's a habit you should start working on.The trick to making the first move and introducing yourself to women is to always exhibit confidence, a good sense of humor and show her that you are self-assured but not pushy. Keep the initial conversation light and breezy and establish a rapport with the woman you're talking to. Refrain from just talking about yourself and concentrate on being a good listener.

4. Offer help and be chivalrous

Chivalry is about respecting women. When you go out to various places, doing things like holding the door for a woman with an armload of groceries or giving up your seat on the bus to an lady shows women that you possess qualities such as courage, honor, and loyalty and that you are decent guy who is worthy of attention. We're not trying to suggest that respecting your elders or opening doors should be done just to meet women, but consider that a beautiful woman could be watching you every time you're rude or curse someone in public or lose your temper.

5. Smile

A man with a smile on his face is more approachable than a man with a frown. Your smile tells women that you're a friendly person who is open, friendly and relaxed on the inside. The act of smiling triggers good feelings in women and can be your best weapon to let them open up to you.

Sunday, April 15, 2012

4 Ways To Increase Your Value

A woman will only have true passion for a man when she thinks she is capable of losing him. On the other hand, once she thinks that you are easily attainable, your value drops big time and that same passion will slowly disappear.

In the dating game, a woman will always go crazy for that man for whom she had to work hard to get. In order for a woman to feel naturally attracted to you and perceive your value, you have to start working on ways to raise that rating of yours to a new level and make her realize that you are worth more then she may think. In order to get your value higher, focus on the following four points:

1. Make yourself scarce

If you're the type of guy who is an open book, hangs around all the time or doesn’t wait long enough to call a woman back, there’s no motivation to make her come after you. For a woman to value your presence, you have to make her put some work into hanging out with you.

Decline or ignore any first advances or invitations you receive from a woman and make yourself appear busy and in demand. Tell her something like, “Oh, you want to hang out on Saturday night? Geez, I don't know. I have this other thing going on, and I don’t know if I can get out of it.” By being a challenge to women, you’ll leave them wanting more and you will be perceived as scarce and hence, more valuable.

2. Stand up for yourself
Men that do not stand up for themselves lower their value because women perceive them as desperate, needy and eager to please. To increase your value, let a woman know politely that you are upset if she does things that anger you. Furthermore, let her know that you have strong morals that you stand by and if they are not followed, you will not hesitate to end a relationship and kindly escort her out of your life without hesitation.

3. Be intriguing

Women want men who can offer them intellectual stimulation. Being intriguing is a key element in attracting women because it gets them thinking about you when you’re not there and gets them frustrated--in a good way! And as they try to figure you out, they’re investing more and more time thinking about who you are, what you do, what you're like, etc... The more and more intrigued a woman becomes, the more she'll feel like you are a riddle she HAS to solve.

4. Increase your social proof

Social proof plays a crucial role in getting women to look your way and is a strong force that can increase your value in just about any dating situation. When you go out to various places, engage in small conversations with friends and acquaintances and don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to people you don’t know.

By conveying a message that you are a cool and interesting guy who has a lot going on in his life and is worthy of attention, a woman will begin to wonder “who is this guy and why does he seem so popular with people?” She will then become so curious she’ll think you could be someone really interesting, hence someone she should meet.

Sunday, April 8, 2012

Top 10: Ways To Make A Woman Smile

One of the easiest ways to win a woman over is by making her smile through thoughtfully spoken words and doing something intentional to show her a little bit of appreciation and love. So, if your relationship is slipping into a funk, or you just want to make it more fun, here are 10 of the best ways to put a smile on your girlfriend's face.

1. Being chivalrous
Be a gentleman; hold doors open for her, be polite and be helpful. Ask her if she's cold when it's cold out and have a jacket or a sweater handy so you can give it to her.

2. Remembering important dates
Remembering birthdays, anniversaries and other milestones is a big deal with women. These important dates are also opportunities to show her how special she is to you.

3. Leave her romantic notes
Slip some romantic notes into your girlfriend’s handbag. She is sure to smile at the words when she reads it later.

4. Tell her how beautiful she looks
Don’t wait for a special occasion to say the words and it will make her day.

5. Introduce her to people that matter to you
Show her that you're proud to be with her by introducing her to people that are important to you when you're out.

6. Appreciate her attempts to look good for you
Make sure you pay attention to details such as hair, nails and new looks that she might try out. If your girlfriend has taken pains to dress up for an evening out, be sure to notice it and tell her she looks amazing. The compliment will surely bring a smile on her lips.

7. Send her flirtatious text messages

Being playful, sexual, and engaging her imagination with text messages will bring a few light moments on a busy working day and surely make her smile.

8. Send her flowers at work
Women LOVE getting flowers, especially at work, and receiving a lovely bouquet from you for no reason at all is certain to bring a smile on your girlfriend’s lips. Having flowers delivered to your wife’s workplace will make the women around her jealous, and what’s more she will be secretly thrilled to get their envious glances.

9. Encourage her ideas and aspirations
What is important to her should be important to you as well. If you show an interest in what's important to her, you'll keep her smiling and feeling good about her dreams.

10. Make her laugh
A sense of humor usually tops a woman's attraction wish list and is one of the best ways to turn her on. A woman who finds herself laughing along with your great sense of humor is a girl who is more likely to fall for your charms.

Monday, April 2, 2012

5 Signs You're Dating An Emotional Bully

Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship; however, if you use words like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile to describe your girlfriend and your relationship, odds are you’re dating an emotional bully. Life is too short to waste time in this kind of relationship, so you need to run for the hills if your woman holds more than one of these attributes at any given time on a continual basis:

1. She creates constant chaos

She’s addicted to conflict and seems to get a rush from the adrenaline and drama. She deliberately starts arguments and conflict to keep you engaged or as a way to get you to react to her with hostility so that she can accuse you of being abusive and she can play the victim.

2. She constantly puts you down
She uses verbal assaults and constantly employs tactics such as name calling, criticizing, threatening, screaming, sarcasm, and humiliation as well as exaggerating your flaws and making fun of you in front of your friends, family and even your children.

3. She has constant mood swings with unpredictable responses

One day she's your best friend, the next she won't even speak to you. One minute she'll love you and the next she'll be picking fights or screaming at you for some imagined transgression on your part. Then the cycle repeats itself, again and again.

4. She makes you feel like you can never do enough
She'll keep reminding you of the areas you're lacking and destroy your self-confidence by saying that you don't love her enough, you're not romantic enough, you're not smart enough to figure out her needs or that you don't make enough money to satisfy her. She puts you in no-win situations with her endless list of demands that no one mortal man could ever fulfill.

5. She constantly blackmails you

She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She threatens to deny you of physical and emotional nurturing, withhold affection and sex, abandon you, and even end the relationship if you don’t play by her rules. She plays on your fears, vulnerabilities, weaknesses, shame, compassion, and other “buttons” to control you and get what she wants.

It's your choice if you wish to maintain a relationship with someone who acts like this, but it's important to be aware of these behaviors: they are all signs of an unhealthy relationship, and a lifetime of tolerating this behavior is a miserable existence.

Sunday, March 25, 2012

4 Reasons Why Women Don't Like Shy Guys

Many women actually like the challenge of cracking open the quite, reserved guy standing alone at the bar. But while many women prefer the modest, bashful guy that listens more than he speaks, being overly shy can become downright annoying to them after a while. Here are 4 reasons why women don't like shy guys:

1. They're insecure
Women are attracted to men with self-confidence, period. Insecurity in a man is a major turnoff for women, and shy guys that hesitate and are unsure of themselves appear very weak. Why would a woman want to talk to a guy who doesn't think he is interesting, constantly makes himself the butt of his own jokes and is always ready to point out how other guys are better than him?

2. They never make the first move
Shy guys generally tend to be more passive and display a lack of initiative when it comes to meeting women. A man who doesn't have the confidence to make the first move and initiate conversations with women can become very annoying.

3. They always ask permission
Shy guys always wait for a sign to take some action, which makes them appear passive and timid. They always ask women before doing anything, from touching to kissing, instead of relying on their instincts.

4. They're not spontaneous
Shy guys are always on their best behavior trying to please women rather than letting loose and showing them how lively they can really be. Women are looking for men with spontaneity, assertiveness and a sense of adventure and passion.

Looking for more ways to avoid turning women off? Check out our article on the 5 Signs You're Being Needy.

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Is Three Really A Crowd?

If you ask men what their ultimate fantasy is, chances are they will likely respond that it is making love with two women. Almost every man who has the opportunity to have a three-way love-making experience will take it, but what are the chances that taking it to the next level can actually ruin your relationship?

Let's face it--men who make love to two women are revered by their male counterparts. It gives a man a feeling of accomplishment and achievement, making him feel like the ultimate alpha male. But have you ever considered the consequences of three-way lovemaking for both you and your partner?

For any self-respecting woman who is in love, sharing her boyfriend with another woman can be a traumatic experience that can trigger all kinds of negative emotions for her ranging from jealousy and embarrassment to possessiveness.

Think about it--asking your woman to have a three-way means that you are confessing your desire to make love to another woman. Just the thought of that will not only give her a sense of doubt, but mistrust will creep in and she will think you are cheating and are not satisfied by her.

Still not convinced a three-way could ruin your relationship? While you might be excited at the idea of being with two women at the same time, would something switch in your view of your girlfriend if she asked you for a threesome with another man?

Imagine how hard it would be to return to a normal relationship once you've seen your lady in bed with another guy. Even if you're in to that sort of thing now, how willing would you be to make her your wife and have some kids after watching her get it on with some random stranger, or even worse--one of your buddies?

When it comes to threesomes, they're never a good idea unless you have an open relationship with some chick you see no real future with. If you're in a very loving, secure and serious relationship, this type of fantasy should stay just that--a fantasy.

5 Reasons Why Women Won't Date Single Dads

We all know the dating world can be very complicated; however, it can be even worse for a guy who has little ones at home. While it is very honorable to take over the responsibility of raising your children full time, many women try to stay clear of single dads who are on the dating scene. Whether you feel the following reasons are understandable or ridiculous, here are the top 5 reasons why a woman would be hesitant to get involved with a man who has children:

1. She wants her partner's kids to be her first
Women want their first child to be their partners first child and they might avoid having a relationship with a single dad because she wants all those milestones of growing up to be shared mutually between her and her children's father.

2. She doesn't want your kids
A woman may not want a ready-made family. Bearing her own children may be an important part of her life plan and she doesn’t want to start out as a stepmother when she could have her own biological children.

3. She wants you all to herself
When it comes to dating, a woman wants to feel that she is the number one person in your life and that her needs come first. With a single dad, this isn’t the case. With little ones around the house, you can’t completely let go and do wild, spontaneous things like you might at the beginning of a relationship without kids. Your commitments to your kids will seriously cut in to your couple time and she doesn’t want to compete with your kids for your time, affection and attention.

4. She doesn't want to deal with baggage
The end of a relationship is always hard and the situation with his kids’ mom probably left plenty of issues behind. Because of this, a woman may think that a single dad will have lots of emotional baggage because of his loss — whether he’s single because of divorce or death. If the mother of your children is still in the picture, the fact that there will always be another woman in your life who will be hanging around may bother her.

5. She doesn't want kids at all
The most obvious reason that a woman would not date a single dad is that she just doesn’t like kids. Contrary to popular belief, there are plenty of women out there who don’t care for children for various reasons. Think about if--if she has never pictured herself as a mom, becoming a step-mom probably isn’t in the cards either.

The better you understand these reasons, the easier it’ll be for you to put a woman's fears to rest and to have a chance at a real relationship. On the other hand, you might find that she’s too immature to handle your situation. In that case, you should move on and find someone that will embrace a guy with a big enough heart to include many people in his care.

Friday, March 16, 2012

5 Signs You're Ready To Propose

Marriage is one of the biggest steps you'll ever take in your life. So just how do you know when you're ready to plop down on one knee and ask your girlfriend the magical "Will you marry me" question? Well, it's hard to put a time stamp on everything, least of all relationships; however, the following 5 signs should alert you to the fact that you're ready to make an honest woman out of the lady in your life:

1. You have similar values
Marriage isn’t going to succeed on love alone, so if the two of you complement each other's strengths and weaknesses and both of you are actually headed in the same direction on issues such as work, money, raising children, religion and values, you're in line to get hitched.

2. You've made plans for the future with her
If you've initiated or willingly participated in discussions with your girlfriend about things like which house to buy, which investment is better, having children and retirement plans, you're ready to propose.

3. You've discovered your desire to be a father
You're ready for marriage when you actually embrace the idea of being a father, begin suggesting to your girlfriend how great of a dad you will be, and begin thinking of your children's names.

4. You've completely grown out of your bachelor ways
The idea of meeting new women and participating in the singles' scene no longer appeals to a man who is ready to marry. Ask yourself the following questions: Do you feel increasingly out of place in the bars and clubs? Are you are sick of parties and getting involved with one-night stands? Are you ready to burn your little black book and forsake contact with exes and anyone else who may threaten your relationship? If you answered yes to these questions, you are squarely on the path to proposing.

5. You simply can't wait to get home to her
Whenever you go out of town on business, you frequently wish she could be there with you. Conversely, when she's away, you can't wait for her to get back. You feel comfortable talking with her about any and everything. You not only call her daily, but you can't wait to see her and tell her the details of your day and have a strong desire to hear about hers. Don't fight it any longer, you're ready.