Getting Caught Checking Out Other Women

So you were cold busted by your girlfriend staring at another woman. While it's completely normal for guys to glance at other women (not excessively, but certainly now & then), it becomes a problem when you actually stare at other women and forget that you're girlfriend is actually standing right next you!

Many women feel insulted when their men go out of their way to stare at other women right in front of them. Just think about how you would feel if you saw another guy undressing your woman with his eyes in front of you. When you're caught checking out another woman, don't lie about it or get defensive. That's one of the biggest mistakes men make.

Lying may be your first instinct, but women hate it when they are lied to and it will only add fuel to the fire. Acknowledge your behavior and remind your woman of how beautiful she is and how proud you are to be with her. Explain to her that just because you looked doesn't make her less attractive in your eyes.

While it is natural to look, keep in mind that getting caught repeatedly will inevitably lead to your woman's constant irritation, unnecessary arguments and accusations of you cheating, especially if you have a jealous girlfriend. For a happy relationship, and the sake of her sanity, keep your eyes planted on your own woman!

When You Get Caught Cheating

When you get caught cheating, the whole world comes crashing down. Your girlfriend's head will seemingly become a whirlwind of pain and anger, and there's nothing that you can do but stand there and tell her you're sorry. No amount of apologizing can change her mind, and nothing you can say will ease her pain. In other words, a mere apology just will not suffice.

While there is no one reason why men cheat, most men that engage in these practices are either looking for something that their girlfriend is not providing, they actually desire to be with different women or they are just commitment phobic. All men know or should know that cheating is wrong; however, in troubled relationships, cheating can be an easy alternative to the burden of a relationship breakup. Make no mistake about it--when your girlfriend finds out you've been with another woman, she's going to be furious for a while. Some women will demand to know what happened, how long it's been going on, and what you've been doing with this other woman, etc... As your girlfriend rages against you and the emotions fly, you'll begin looking for ways to undo what you did. The bad news is that you can't.

One of the worst things you can do after cheating on a girl is try to blame something or someone else. In a situation like this, she's concerned with her own emotions, and the last thing she wants to hear about is how "badly" you feel. So avoid telling her stuff like "I feel terrible that this happened". If you truly love and care about your girlfriend, you should feel some pain and guilt. When she is sufficiently calm, make a heartfelt, genuine apology for cheating on her. Take responsibility for cheating on her and don't defer the blame onto your lover, how much you had to drink, or whatever. When you agree with her that this is definitely your own fault, her anger can finally start draining away; however, don't think that just a couple of days will be enough for her to get over what you did.

Some women will cheat on you in retaliation ( with a guy who's hotter than you) or just choose not to forgive you and move on. Even if you're lucky enough to have a a girlfriend who is truly forgiving, loving and understanding --the relationship will change forever. Make no mistake about it: cheating automatically kills the trust that your lady had for you. Her allegiance and dedication to you will drop immediately, and even if she does not state it verbally, you'll see the change in her demeanor when she's around you. She will always have trust issues with you from that moment, and although she may try to forget what you did, she will always be hurt.

Keep in mind that although she may forgive and forget, your girlfriend's family and friends will always have a longer memory than she does and will still hate you long after she forgave you. You also have to deal with the possibility of the fling that you hooked up with wanting to be your main squeeze and possibly causing even more problems for your already damaged relationship.

8 Signs of a Bad Relationship

Many failed relationships occur because the person jumped in too fast and wanted too much too quickly, and failed to spot red flags early on. Every relationship has its ups and downs. But if there are only downs, you are probably stuck in a bad relationship with the wrong woman. Here are some of the most obvious signs of a bad relationship:


1. You no longer have strong feelings about her. You've stopped feeling affectionate towards her and the relationship has become more of a duty that you have to carry out.


2. You’re being emotionally abused. She makes you feel worthless by using cruel words, rude remarks and a controlling attitude.


3. Sex with her feels like an obligation.


4. You're irritated by her voice and you can't wait to get off the phone with her.


5. She's a drama queen. You have a feeling of continuous frustration about the relationship and feel that only her needs are being met.


6. You have deep resentments toward her and you’re finding more reasons to spend time away from her.


7. You’ve put extreme distance and/or totally cut off close relationships you used to have with your friends and family.


8. You’ve changed your values and beliefs to accommodate her and become who she wants you to be.

Dealing With Her Guy Friend

So what do you do if you meet a girl, start dating her, and find out that her best friend is a guy? First off, you have to realize that it's not unusual for men and women to be friends and whether he's gay, a former boyfriend or a sucker stuck in the dreaded FRIENDZONE, chances are they've known each other for a long time and have a tight bond. But in order to successfully deal with this kind of situation, you have to be able to figure out whether or not her guy friend secretly wants to get with her, or is he indeed just a friend.

If her best friend is a guy, it could cause problems for your relationship because there will always be another guy with whom she's emotionally intimate. If they've known each other for a long time, she'll naturally feel comfortable hugging him and more than likely has confided in him a number of times on some very personal issues. He will be there for her when you're not and can offer her insight into your behaviors, especially when the two of you are having an argument. Because of this, you need to gradually phase him out and become her "go-to guy," the first person she thinks to call whenever she has good or bad news.

As you determine whether or not her male best friend poses a threat, you need to find out more about their history. Offer to meet the guy in order to get a feel for what his true intentions are. Doing this will allow you to determine whether he's a threat to your relationship or not by doing simple things like inquiring whether or not they were ever more than just friends, watching for flirting between the two, and gaining insight into his relationship history. Gathering this information about him will allow you to deal with the situation accordingly.

Trust is key in every relationship, and the worst thing you can do is express unfounded jealousy and possessiveness because it makes you seem insecure and could drive her away for good. However, if your woman insists on always wanting to go over to her guy friend's house to hang out instead of spending quality time with you, buying him gifts, receiving mysterious phone calls from him, sending secret text messages and getting defensive whenever you mention the behaviors, there's probably more to it than just friendship and you have a reason to feel uncomfortable.

If she is really committed to you, then she should respect you enough to set some boundaries with her male friend, no matter how long she's known him. Although you can't make a woman do anything, you don't have to sit there and be a sucker. If she refuses to respect your feelings, it may be time to move on.

Why Women Want What's Off Limits

Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to get women to give you the time of day when you're single, but once you're in a great relationship with a good woman, you suddenly get an abnormally high number of compliments, giggles and increased attention from attractive women?

It's no secret that single women are drawn to a man in a relationship. It’s fascinating, but also very frustrating and unfair for the newly tied-down man. After hearing the countless tired pick-up lines and being played too many times by all the wrong, commitment phobic single men, many women see taken men as being "safe" and having desirable qualities, namely, being successful, intelligent and charming. Women love a challenge--and since taken men are tougher to get, luring you away from your good relationship gives them bragging rights.

Because an attached man has demonstrated his ability to commit, in some ways his qualities have already been ‘pre-screened' by other women. The simple fact that you make the woman on your arm happy attracts the buzz of many other women and makes them all want to steal you away from her.

Another reason why some women can't just let a taken man go is because just like a lot of men, many women crave sex. As a result, when some women meet a man that they have an undeniable sexual attraction to, they rush forward and pounce without thinking about the repercussions. Remember, women want what other women have, and the more out of reach you are, the more appealing you are to them.

Although it may seem that your success with one woman has made you successful with all women, if you're lucky enough to find a good woman who wants to be by your side, ruining a good relationship and throwing it all away for one night of pleasure with a woman who showed no interest when you were still on the market isn't very smart.

Talking About Your Ex With Your Dates

Your first conversation on a date with a new woman should be fun and intriguing, not consumed with emotional baggage and especially not discussions about your ex.

Women view men that can't stop talking about their ex non-stop as having unresolved frustrations and pent-up bitterness. Most men who talk about their ex do so because they're still trying to analyze what led to the breakup and have problems rebuilding when a relationship ends. By constantly talking about your ex to a new woman, she may see you as just trying to make yourself appear as the victim or the "wronged party" With this state of mind, a man is more likely to steer the conversation with a new woman into more of a comparison checklist, i.e., "my ex wanted me to take her out to expensive restaurants every night--what do you think of that?"

When meeting new women, think about how to focus on what potentially good relationships you could have with them instead of boring your dates with stories of your ex. Although women appreciate a man who can genuinely show his emotions, remember--constantly talking about your ex-partners and messy breakups can make a very bad first impression and run her off in a hurry!

Turning Women Off With Bad Breath

Have you ever felt like you have the looks and all the right moves, but for some reason, when you speak to women, they just keep turning their head and moving away from you? Although the right words may be coming out of your mouth, bad breath may be what's turning the ladies off.

A big part of keeping yourself up is taking care of your oral hygiene. Bad breath is one of the biggest turnoffs you can display to the opposite sex. Bad breath is mainly caused by a buildup of odor-causing bacteria gorging and producing waste in your mouth. The No. 1 thing you can do to ensure that your breath is as sweet as your personality is to keep up a diligent oral regimen, to include brushing your teeth, gums and your tongue at least twice a day along with adding flossing and the use of mouthwash to your daily routine to protect your teeth and give your mouth a minty fresh smell. You may even invest in a mini toothbrush and toothpaste along with sugarless gum and mints to keep with you on the go, especially if you're meeting someone important after a meal. Also, going to the dentist twice a year for a routine cleaning and checkup is an important step to maintaining fresh breath.

Although it’s something that everyone will deal with from time to time, bad breath can be hugely embarrassing. Ensure that you always have fresh breath and watch high quality women get closer and closer to you!