Top 10: Mistakes Men Make in Bed

Even the most experienced of men may make a mistake or two in the bedroom from time to time and some end up fumbling more times than their favorite football team. It's up to you to keep things interesting and to avoid making sexual errors that irritate women, so if you steer clear of the following 10 behaviors, you will be headed toward being the kind of lover that attracts women like magnets and keeps them coming back for more.


1. Not returning sexual favors
Women often complain about men who gladly accept oral pleasuring, but never return the favor. Being a selfish lover can be an intimacy killer because one partner cannot be expected to continually please the other while not being pleasured themselves. Although you may get incredible sexual gratification from your lover's abilities, just remember that she needs some attention too.

2. Insufficient foreplay

At one time or another, we've all experienced a moment so passionate that wasting time on foreplay was unthinkable; however, getting caught up in the heat of the moment is quite different from pouncing on her out of nowhere, and cutting straight to the chase on a regular basis. The thing that makes sex incredible for a woman is anticipation and being sexually teased, and insufficient foreplay can undermine the entire act of sex. Take your time and master the art of foreplay in order to drive your woman wild.


3. Being silent and emotionless
Women want and NEED strong emotional experiences in bed. Men generally believe that remaining silent during the sex is a better option than speaking out what they desire, but if you are not talking during lovemaking and creating a strong emotional experience for her, she can't be totally fulfilled. Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, "That feels so good," will encourage her.


4. Assuming she's satisfied
Concentrating solely on your own sexual gratification is likely to leave your lover feeling underwhelmed or unsatisfied once you finish. Just because you got off, that doesn't mean that she's satisfied. Remember, a good lover makes the effort to make sure his partner is satisfied before he is.


5. Lack of grooming
When you're in the throes of passion, having your beard stubble brushing back and forth across her body isn't so sexy. If there's one thing that turns women off, it's a lover whose personal hygiene isn't up to par. Keeping yourself clean and properly groomed- especially in the more intimate corners of your anatomy - is not just a matter of courtesy, it's a ticket back to the bedroom.


6. Not lasting long enough
This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of mistakes in the bedroom would be complete without it. You need to have good penile control to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. If you can't control yourself and end up letting go too soon, spend a lot more time on foreplay. Although it is a debatable topic, most women will be happy if you can last at least 20 minutes.


7. Ignoring her erogenous zones
Most women have more erogenous areas than simply her breasts, nipples, and genitals. Take the time to learn your lover's other “hot” zones, particularly her neck, shoulders, back, buttocks and feet. Focus on her entire body. It will turn her on more and, in turn, increase the chances of her pleasuring you back.


8. Forcing sexual fantasies
Men often commit the mistake of not respecting a woman’s comfort zone, and simply expect women to do just about everything in bed to please them. Most women have an adventurous side and are willing to try new things in bed once they trust their lover enough. But, if you ever want her to reach that point with you, the last thing you should do is impose your sexual desires and fantasies upon her too soon into the relationship. Remember--real sex is not like sex in adult films, so always try to introduce new positions and reveal fantasies slowly but surely.


9. Thinking what works for one woman works for them all
Men often make assumptions about what a woman's wants based upon what they've done with other women; however, there is a great deal of variation between what different women like in the bedroom as well as their own differing levels of experience and confidence. If you have trouble reading your girlfriend’s responses, there is no harm in asking her directly what she likes. Even if you feel that you do know what will keep her satisfied in bed, constantly giving her a variety of sexual experiences is the fastest way to a varied and fulfilling sex-life.


10. Not kissing her enough
Believe it or not, many men don't kiss the woman they're with when they're having sex -- and that's one of the biggest mistakes to avoid in bed. Women love being kissed because it makes them feel soft, sexy, beautiful and adds the romance that they crave.


Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Mistakes Women Make In Bed.

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7 Tips For Getting Over Your Ex

Getting over your ex is rarely a quick and easy process, and it’s often complicated by all the things that the two of you still have in common, like friends, favorite hangouts, etc.. One of the toughest parts about trying to get over an ex is that your mind will hardly let you think about anything else...especially if you really liked the girl. It’s never easy, but if you follow these 7 tips for getting over your ex, you can forget the past, focus on your future and be back in the saddle in no time.


1. Avoid the places she hangs out at
Don't go to all your old favorite places or where she hangs out at. The whole point right now is getting over her, so visiting old places where you used to go will only remind you of her, not to mention her friends might be there and could certainly make you feel unwelcome. It’s a small price to pay for peace of mind.


2. Exercise and stay active
Exercising and staying active can create a better self-image, lead to more confidence and is scientifically proven to make people happier. Getting in shape is also a good way to boost your self-esteem, improve your mood and alleviate depression, and the distraction will help keep your mind off your recent breakup. And don’t forget: The gym is also a great place to meet new women.


3. Get rid of items that remind you of her
After a break up, it's important that you get rid of all the things that remind you of your ex as soon as possible because these little reminders can keep you trapped in the clutches of heartbreak. Throw away all of the Christmas and birthday gifts she gave you, photos of the two of you and love letters that she wrote you. The sooner you get all that junk out of your home the sooner you’ll get over her emotionally.


4. Hang out with your friends
Now that you’re single, this is the perfect time to reconnect with the buddies you left behind while you were in that committed relationship with a girlfriend who was always greedy for all of your attention. Not only will it be fun, but it will also be therapeutic because interacting with your people who care about you is one of the most effective forms of therapy.

5. Avoid contacting her

This is probably the most important thing you should do when getting over an ex, and as hard is may be go to without seeing and hearing from her, you're going to need to grit your teeth and struggle through it. Even if she gave you the old line about trying to stay friends, forget it. Don't call her, email her, text her or contact her in any way. If you work or go to school with her, try to avoid her whenever possible. Furthermore, avoid people who you know would share personal details of your conversations with them with your ex.


6. Remember the bad times with her
When you find yourself missing your ex in a weak moment, one of the best tricks to help you stick to your resolve is to make a list of all the reasons she was not the one for you. Write down what happened and how it made you feel, being clear about the things you never want to feel again. Then tell yourself, "This is the reality of what it was like with her, so why would I want to go back and torture myself again with this woman?"

7. Enjoy your newfound freedom
After a breakup, don't underestimate the importance of taking the time to learn more about yourself, how to recognize bad relationship signs, how you relate to others and the problems you need to work on. A breakup can signify a new beginning, so keep yourself busy and treat your breakup as if you just got out of jail. Exercise this newfound freedom by meeting new people or doing things that your ex didn't approve of (within reason).

Stay out until three in the morning, hop on a plane to Vegas with your best friend, or just sit on your couch and watch football all day. Take pleasure in all of those things that you couldn’t do as a boyfriend. Take the opportunity after a breakup to explore new interests and activities as you begin looking forward to finding the woman of your dreams.

Top 10: Signs She's Flirting With You

When a woman is flirting with a guy, she's trying to get him to notice her and giving him an opportunity to make the first move. The problem with this female strategy is that a lot of guys are completely oblivious to it and, consequently, throw away a lot of chances to hook up. The following are 10 of the most obvious signals women emit when they want you.

Keep in mind, however, that lots of women are open and friendly to everyone, so spotting just one of these signs might not necessarily be enough to determine her interest. But if a lot of these signals are coming your way, it's a pretty safe bet that you could score a date.


1. She smiles at you
When a woman has an interest in you, her smile can hold your attention from across a crowded room and it is definitely one of the major signs she's flirting. Good looking woman have to work everyday to fend off guys they don’t like, so if she is smiling at you from across the room, this means that she wants you to talk to her. Engage in her flirting by returning the smile.


2. She plays with her hair
If she is attracted to you, she may twirl her hair in her fingers or let it cascade in front of one eye, use her fingers to brush her hair away from her face or lift her hair off the back of her neck as if she is hot while looking at you. If you say hello and she’s performing any of these behaviors, well, all signals say: Keep chatting.


3. She makes direct eye contact with you
One of the most obvious signs a woman flirting with you is when she continuously looks right at you and maintains prolonged eye contact. If the eye contact is for longer than normal duration and she scans you up and down, keeping her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks, she’s already made up her mind that she likes what she sees.


4. She isolates herself from her friends
Women know that men might find it difficult to talk with them while they're in a group, so if she distances herself from her wall of friends and stands alone, looking at or gazing at you, then it is a sign that she is providing an avenue for you to initiate a conversation.


5. She attempts to catch your attention
If a woman glances and smiles at you while walking by you and in the process takes a longer route to get to the restroom, then it may be that she wants you to notice her. By walking past you repeatedly, out of her way, she’s giving you a sense that she wants your attention.


6. She enters your body space
When a woman enters your personal space, "accidentally" bumping into you with a glance and a smile or maneuvering to stand close to you at a club or at work, she’s inviting a response and trying to become more intimate with you. Closeness is intimacy for a woman, and the closer she allows herself to get to you, the more attracted she is to you.


7. She initiates conversation with you
If she comes over to talk to you, she wants to know what you’re all about. She will seem really into your conversation, turning her body toward you, tilting her head up at you and listening to you intently. She'll convey her interest by asking you open-ended questions, attempt to determine if you are single, dig for personal information and catalog your interests so that she can mimic your likes and dislikes in order to bond with you.

8. She draws attention to her mouth and lips
A Woman's lips can be extremely seductive and there is a tremendous amount of flirtatious energy tied up in them. Some of the most effective signs she's flirting will have her applying lip gloss or running her finger across her lip.


9. She compliments you

A woman who is flirting with you will tell you flat out that she thinks you are cute, compliment your clothes, hair or something that you mentioned in conversation. If you receive a compliment and she seems really into you, she's definitely hoping you will ask her out. If you are interested in her as well, don't forget to compliment her, otherwise she may think you are self-centered.

10. She touches you

A flirting woman will make an excuse to touch you, if only briefly. She might reach out and lightly touch your shoulder, forearm, hand or wrist during a conversation or put her hand on your knee while making a point. If she gives you any lingering touches and doesn’t immediately remove her hand, you know you've got a live one.

Signs of Negative Body Language

So you finally landed a date with a hot girl you thought you'd never have a chance with; however, you didn't notice that by her backing away from you, using her hand as a subtle barrier to keep you at bay, and fanning the air with her "goodbye" message, her body contradicted every kind word her lips said to you.

Still, you were excited about all the "possibilities" -- until two days later, when you made the promised phone call to her and you heard, "You know, I don't think we really have enough in common to see each other again." Where did that come from? Didn't she say it would be great if you called?

When it comes to understanding a woman, what she's doing is just as important as what she's saying -- sometimes more so. Maybe she didn't consciously know she had reservations about seeing you until much later, but her body knew from the get-go and was letting you know with key rejection signals. And since you weren't reading her completely, you wound up getting blindsided.

Understanding a woman's body language will give you a better idea of what she's really thinking and feeling along with saving you a lot of unnecessary heartache. So, the next time you meet a woman you're interested in, watch for the following 3 physical signs that she's not into you so you'll know when you need to change your approach and move on to someone else.


1. Disinterest
If your date smiles with her mouth but not her eyes and keeps looking away while you speak to her, she's probably not interested and is just trying to be polite and not lead you on. Other signs of disinterest may include her tapping or drumming her fingers, slapping a fake smile on her face without laughing, leaning away from you and just flat out making excuses to leave as soon as possible.


2. She avoids physical proximity
If a woman is attracted to you, she will naturally want to be close to you. However, if a woman keeps you at arm's length at all times, she's defensive, guarded and may also be protecting her personal space, so make sure you don't get too close.


3. Anger If she flays her hands instantaneously when demonstrating a point or makes sudden motions when emphasizing some matters, your presence is agitating her--in a bad way. If her hands are placed on her hips or she's swinging her foot in your direction, consider that she's actually making a kicking motion towards you--which are both very, very bad signs.

If a woman is displaying these 3 signs, she's just not feeling it and there's really little point in pursuing this cold fish.

4 Signs of a Controlling Woman

Does your girlfriend control conversations, attempt to prove you wrong and constantly rewrite past events to make her point? Does she force you into agreeing with her and threaten to leave you if you don't do as she says? Do you constantly find yourself on the defensive, having to explain all your actions and words? Does she break down your self-confidence little by little until you begin to believe you're nothing without her? If so, you might be dating a controlling woman.

These over-dominant women believe that men and relationships should run no way but their way and will even convince their men that it's for their own good. If your girlfriend exhibits any of these 4 tell-tale signs below, you may very well be in the hands of an overbearing, emotional bully and unless you like having your life steered for you and your opinions made by someone else, it might be time to reconsider the relationship.


1. She makes your decisions for you
Controlling women will define you by telling you what you think and feel. They'll tell you when you can go out and when you can invite the guys over to watch the game. These manipulative women believe that they should be able to make every decision in your life and will explode into long tirades when you do not behave in line with their plans. They believe that they know what's best for their men and will even go as far as selecting the clothes you wear, choosing what movies you'll watch and deciding what you should or shouldn't eat.


2. She always has to be right
Controlling women must be right at all times. These women are never wrong, and everything is always your fault. They constantly use lines such as "I didn’t do that," "I didn’t say that," "I don't know what you’re talking about," and "It wasn’t that bad." These women control men by shaming them for their thoughts, actions and every time they voice an opinion. They never try to understand your views and will constantly threaten to abandon you, end the relationship or give you the cold shoulder if you don’t play by their rules.


3. She tells you how to spend your money
A controlling woman will tell you that you're spending way too much money on things you enjoy, like drinks and eats with your pals, and suggests you save up for more important things, like her new wardrobe. Before you know it, she'll eventually become in complete control of your credit cards and your pay check.


4. She keeps constant tabs on you
A controlling woman will call you 10-15 times per day to keep track on what you're doing, who you're with and where you're going next with each call. She also expects you to call her multiple times a day and demands to be by your side as often as possible.

8 Signs You're Dating a Psycho

Although we like to think of women as gentle and kind beings, there are some that do nothing but breed chaos, misunderstanding and insanity in relationships--especially when things don't go their way. Whether these behaviors originate from a chemical imbalance or from the environment in which they were raised, one thing is for sure--dating a nutjob can negatively affect all areas of your life; therefore, your goal should be to spot these gals before things get out of control. Here are 8 signs that the woman you're dating is a psycho.


1. She's extremely jealous
This type of psycho will go to any length to force unreasonable faithfulness on you because of her fear of losing you. Regardless of your constant assurances that you only care about her, she feels threatened when you discuss your previous relationships, gets angry and even has rages when you talk with female relatives, hates the idea of meeting your female friends and refers to all of them as skanks.


2. She's controlling your life
Do you have a hard time remembering the last time you had an opinion? Do you recall your last decision? Do you constantly find yourself on the defensive, having to explain all your actions and words? If so, it's because you're being completely controlled. This type of psycho is often good at manipulating and intimidating men, making a guy feel he is the one responsible for making her angry or upset.

Controlling women like this believe they know what's best for their men and will begin selecting the clothes you wear, choosing what movies you'll watch and deciding what you should or shouldn't eat. They will tell you when you can go out, when you can invite the guys over to watch the game and will even call you 10-15 times per day to keep track on what you're doing, who you're with and where you're going next with each call. They must be right at all times and will use a great deal of coercion and intimidation to force you into agreeing with them, i.e. shaming you for your thoughts, actions, every time you voice an opinion and will never try to understand your views.


3. She makes paranoid assumptions
If another woman calls you on the phone, even if it’s your boss or a female relative, she loses it, and goes into the grand questioning. Even if your 2 or 3 minutes late getting home, she asks what took you so long, or says "You were suppose to be home 3 minutes ago?". She gets angry every time you come within 20 feet of another attractive woman and demands: "What are you looking at?" She also blows up at you anytime you mention an attractive female celebrity and she asks, "So would you do her? Huh? Would you do her, you bastard?" If your girlfriend is displaying any of these behaviors, you might be in bigger trouble than you think.


4. She threatens to hurt or kill herself
When a psycho is on to the fact that you aren’t happy and might be looking for a way out, she will take drastic measures will keep you around such as making crazy statements in the middle of arguments, like,“If you leave, I’ll probably kill myself” and other threats of bodily harm. Even if she really wouldn’t kill herself and is just using these threats as a ploy to keep you around, it’s a serious issue that that leaves only one course of action: You have to break up.


5. She gets physical during arguments
Women like this feel it’s perfectly fine to slap, push, throw objects, force or slam doors and even use weapons against their man when he says or does something they don't like. These women make unrealistic demands of men and feel like they can inflict any kind physical pain on their men without fear of repercussion due to the man's fear of criminal charges, losing his job, etc...


6. She stalks you
A psycho will do things like call repeatedly or call late at night, leave notes at your home or send unwanted text messages and e-mails. When you just want to hang with your friends or even just be alone, she shows up at the bar, at your work, at the gym and at the bookstore. Check your pockets -- she may even be having you tracked.


7. She's emotionally unstable
With this type of psycho, her emotions are like night and day and you can't tell the difference between her being happy, mad or sad--even by looking at her facial expressions. One day she's your best friend, the next she won't even speak to you. One minute she'll love you and the next she'll be picking fights or screaming at you for some imagined transgression on your part. One moment, she is full of laughter and vitality. The next second, she is weeping her eyes out and overcome by misery. Any little bit of change in the day can cause her to react (or overreact) with a tornado of unnecessary emotions.

Women like this have the emotional age of a young child and their emotions ricochet from wild, joyous passion to utmost sorrow. This type of psycho will often exhibit temper tantrums such as getting loud and rude when you’re having a disagreement in public and screaming at the top of her lungs and even approaching you as if she’s going to get physical. She will make you feel like you're walking on eggshells or can't communicate with her without suffering her wrath every single time.


8. She needs constant attention
She cannot spend a moment without speaking to you. She'll send you unwanted text messages and e-mails and will call and page you repeatedly, leaving you voice messages like "I know you're home, pick up the phone." You’re out on lunch with co-workers and she happens to bump into you and just when you're about to go out with your buddies to watch the big game, she'll suddenly develop a mysterious illness, fall to the ground in a pretend faint so that you have to stay home and take care of her. She will encourage you to not work as much and will even go as far as to encourage you to quit your job so you can spend more time with her.

It's no secret that women need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth in a relationship; however, this type of psycho has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure. It's this same insecurity that makes this type of psycho want to constantly be around you so she can reassure herself that you are still there and haven't dumped her. This behavior is annoying and, in some relationships, can be exhausting.

All of these signs show a lack of self control, which in time can be unsafe to her as well as you. Whatever the psychosis, a woman who behaves like this is not someone you need to stay with no matter how good she is when she’s happy or in the bedroom. If you're experiencing any of these relationship landmines, it's time to cut ties as soon as possible.

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Attracting Women With Jealousy

Jealousy causes women to do crazy things and feel very powerful emotions that range from love to hate. When it comes to dating, jealousy can make a woman buckle up, fight more and give more.


For a guy, knowing how to provoke this powerful emotion out of a beautiful woman can give you the upper hand in the dating game. The only aim of getting a woman jealous is to give her the impression that you are the prize and that there are others who would readily grab you if she messes up even the slightest bit. Women are very competitive and if they sense you are in high demand with other women, more than likely they’ll compete to win your attention.


So, how exactly do you use jealousy to attract women? Let's say you're in a bar and there are two women there. One is attractive and you like her; however, the other one is not so attractive. You approach both women, but the entire time you converse and flirt with the less attractive woman much more than with the attractive woman. Most of the time in this scenario, the more attractive woman will try and work harder for your attention.

In a similar scenario, let's say you're flirting with just one woman and she won't give you the time of day. Simply turn around and go chat up another girl in her vicinity, acting like you've forgotten she even exists. At this point, the first girl who paid no attention to you will definitely be observing your behavior, and the second girl's camaraderie with you can easily induce a fit of jealousy. In this situation, don't be surprised if the first girl (who didn't have any feelings for you until she saw you with the second one) makes her way toward your direction in a hurry.

Let's give you a third scenario. Say there's a girl that you like in your social circle. It's a good idea to start hanging out with her close female friend. This way, you have a greater chance of producing jealousy in her, which can lead to attraction. Also, you can try strategies like ignoring the girl you like the most when you are with a group of female friends. This way, she will wonder why are you talking with the other women more than with her.

Now that you've got the idea, you should be on your way to making women want you. While this is not a fool proof strategy, remember--women can be very competitive, and if a woman knows that you don't have any trouble meeting other women, it will often inspire her to feel even more attraction for you--whether she realizes it or not.