Setting the Mood With Music

When trying to find the right music to set a romantic mood, choose the genre and songs very carefully. When it comes to better intimacy, women are unconsciously led in certain directions by sound. It is well known that the type of music you choose can relay a message about where the night is headed, whether you choose faster selections for a more boom-boom session or slower selections when the mood calls for a slower, more tender vibe.

Remember that you’re going to all this effort because you want her to feel special; you’re designing the entire date around her so stick to the type of music she likes. Avoid overly girly music and if it's your first date or you haven't dated long, definitely avoid songs with sexual clichés, for example, "Let’s Get It On" or "Sexual Healing." While rock music can make sex exciting, it does not do well for setting a passionate mood.

Keep any music you choose in the background--never make it a focus. As you experiment with different tunes, keep in mind that music without lyrics can really get the both of you lost in the moment. Playing some instrumental music in the background can be very effective for getting her in the mood. If you don't know what music to play, put on her favorite CD. You may also want to make an investment in some smooth jazz music as it is a surefire way to get the romance flowing.

Remember, bad music can put her on edge just as much as good tunes can relax her. As always, be a gentleman and read and accommodate her signs.

Love in the Shower

There are few things more romantic than loving each other under the showers. Making love in the shower can be a great experience given that your shower isn't the size of a toilet. And when you both get inside, you can go at her from all angles. Before beginning the love act, give a quick bath to each other. Then you can begin teasing your woman's senses with warm touches on her erogenous zones. Make her yearn for more with every touch.

After rinsing away the soap from her body, begin making love to her using the various kissing techniques and experimenting with new sexual positions. You may want to experiment a little by introducing a burning scented candles in the bathroom or placing a stool underneath the shower for a more tantalizing act.

Although shower sex can be quite pleasurable, there are precautions you have to consider. Water will dry up natural lubrication from a woman’s body, which can lead to unpleasurable sex. Be sure that you are prepared with lubrication that is not water-soluble and will make penetration a lot more comfortable for both of you. If you plan on using a condom, know that water and condoms do not mix.

Hot water and chemicals, namely chlorine, can affect a condom’s durability. You also have to consider that there is an increased chance of the condom slipping off in the water. Footing is also an issue. You need proper footing to give thrust, so you might want to invest in adhesive grips for the bottom of the tub. As long as your safe, shower sex should be fun and make for better intimacy between the two of you.

Sensual Baths

Giving your woman a sensual bath can be a heavenly experience if you know what you're doing. Keep in mind this type of bath is not intended to cleanse her body; it's to help her feel relaxed, sexy and spoiled.

Some essential ingredients necessary to make such an evening perfect are some small candles to light the room. Choose a scented one, preferably vanilla, cinnamon or cherry. Buy some of her favorite romantic foods for her to nibble on like chocolate, strawberries, etc.. Purchase some roses or her favorite flowers. Get her favorite champagne or her favorite wines. Get some bath gels, wash cloths and big, fluffy towels for drying off and provide a comfortable robe for her. You can also mix some of her favorite songs to help set the mood.


Draw the bath with bubbles or oils and ensure that it's a comfortable temperature. While the tub is filling, set up the music, the towels, the candles, the drinks and the food so they're easily accessible without getting wet or knocked over. Put the candles on the corners of the tub, the sink and the floor. Take the petals from the roses or her favorite flowers and put them into the water.

When the bath is ready, cover her eyes, bring your woman to the bathroom and open the door to present the scene. Ensure that you have already cleansed your body beforehand, because this type of bath is all about her. Get her naked, put her in the tub and take the water in your hands. Have her lean against you and give her a few sips of champagne. Then, hand-feed her a few bites of the fruits you brought for her. Squeeze the bath gel onto the bath sponge and lather each part of your her body. Take your time, lathering each part slowly.

You can also use your hands to explore her body and play around by rubbing the inside of her thighs, her clitoris with your clean fingers, rubbing the back of her neck, and even massaging her breasts. Continue massaging her skin as you pour the water all over her, rinsing her off while enjoying the feel of her skin while engaging all of her senses during the bath until she can no longer take it. When she is ready to come out, use one large towel to cover her body and the other to cover her hair. Gently towel dry her body, lay her on the bed and apply her favorite lotion to her body.

Although sex will likely follow, the goal is to take the time to spoil your woman silly by making her feel special and giving her an evening that she will tell all her girlfriends about.

How To Get Her Number

For most men, there is nothing more intimidating than approaching a woman and closing the deal (a.k.a. getting her phone number). Getting a woman's number is crucial in order to move the interaction forward. After all, even if you had a great conversation with a woman, you will probably never see her again if she doesn't give you her number or some other method of communication.

Before you ask for numbers, you have to understand what factors will influence a woman to give you her "real" number, or give you the old " I'd love to give you my number, but I just moved and still don't have my new number " excuse. A lot of guys think that they can approach a woman and ask for her number just seconds after meeting her. It simply doesn't work that way.

In reality, the only way a woman will consider giving her number out is if she feels comfortable around you and enough attraction has been created. The last thing she wants is to hand over an invitation for a stalker or some guy who is emotionally cold and seems to be only interested in having sex with her.

To improve your chances of getting the digits of a woman you are interested in talking to, ensure that you are well groomed and dressed stylishly. Approach her in a calm and composed manner and avoid stuttering or speaking so softly that she has trouble understanding you. When talking to her, make her feel comfortable by engaging her in an intellectual and exciting conversation and try to make your conversation last for at least 3- 5 minutes.

Remember the importance of eye contact and don’t talk too fast or too much. Don’t do nervous gestures like weird laughs or ticks and avoid sexual innuendos. Refrain from giving her generic compliments because they will make her think that you're trying too hard to get something out of her.

If you are talking and you see her smiling, becoming more and more interested in your stories, directing her body towards you and touching her hair, you've piqued her interest in you and have established a bond. The only thing left for you to do is close the deal. At this point, tell her how interesting she was to talk to. Then look directly into her eyes and tell her that you would love for her to have your number and how much you would love to have hers as well, so that the two of you can have an opportunity to speak again.

Women like spontaneous men who act in the spur of the moment, so discreetly ask someone for a pen and use available props such as a matchbook or napkin and give her the opportunity to write it her number down for you. As soon as you get the number, leave her presence so you'll leave her wanting more.

No matter how good of a conversationalist you are, sometimes a woman just won't give you her number, even if she thinks you're a great guy. This is usually because she already has a boyfriend, is married, or she was in a hurry or in a bad mood. So, if instead of giving you her number, she begins to make an excuse, don't wait for her to finish. Simply interrupt her with, "It was nice meeting you," look confident and walk away with your head held up high and go find someone else.

You should get into the habit of asking for numbers every time you approach a woman -- even if you don't plan on calling her. Now that you know the sequence, practice your skills over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response when approaching women. The more you do this, the more it will become second nature to you and you'll have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.

When She Won't Return Your Calls

So you met this attractive woman at the bar. The two of you chatted, she reciprocated all your flirts and by the end of the night you had her digits. However, a few days passed by and you consistently called her only to talk with her voice mail. So why didn't she return any of your calls?

A lot of women have been taught that the way to “hook” a man and keep him wanting more is to play hard to get. And not returning your calls right away (or at all) is one of the techniques some women use. On the other hand, it is often much easier for them to play nice and give you their number instead of shaking their heads and saying: “Sorry, I’m just not interested.”

Think hard about your interaction with her and the way you carried yourself and ask yourself some questions like: Were you interesting or boring and predictable to her? Were you a challenge or were you overly sensitive in front of her? Did you say or do something offensive or did you kiss up to her too much? Did she discover something about you that made her rethink her decision to answer your calls?

Wait it out for a few days to a week. If you still haven’t heard from her by then, you need to realize she's showing you one of the biggest signs that she's not into you and it's time to move on. Whatever you do, do not go and visit her without her consent. Showing up suddenly might seem like the ideal solution to getting some communication going, but showing up at her door will not only only upset her, but also make her think she now has a stalker as well.

The Importance of Eye Contact

Approaching women is never easy. How you approach a woman and increase her desire for you involves movement, body signals, facial expressions placed at exactly the right moment and a healthy amount of confidence. But what most men fail to realize in dating is the importance of eye contact.

Eye contact is a very powerful, instinctual form of communication and it plays a crucial role in building attraction with women. The reason women like direct eye contact so much is that they feel like you are completely into them and that you are not afraid of them. A man who looks straight into a woman’s eyes without any hesitation oozes male-confidence and many women like this in a man. Your eye contact with a woman has to be strong, powerful, and has to really show your intent.

Women don’t trust guys who look nervous with their eyes bouncing all over the room. When your eyes are bouncing all over the place, you are telling a woman that you are looking checking somebody else out. Too many men also make the mistake of looking down when talking with women. Looking down shows women that you’re an insecure and weak man. Women will not feel secure around you, and they will actually start wondering whether or not they should continue talking to you. On the other hand, staring at a woman like a stone statue will make her think your some kind of weirdo.

About 80% of what you do and how you communicate with women is nonverbal. When you see that attractive woman that you would like to meet, look into her eyes and calmly maintain eye contact until she looks away. When you make eye contact with a woman, never look away first. Remember, women are looking for strong men and behaving submissively around a woman will make her lose her attraction to you very fast. Remember the laws of attraction. If she eyes you again and maintains the contact for a little longer--get up, make your way to her, and start a conversation.

The Female Hot Spot

Most men are curious as to what spot they can touch to turn their women on and drive them absolutely crazy. Although almost every place on a woman’s body could be called an erogenous zone, a woman's lips are the most erotic place to get her started, so it’s useful to always start with kissing a woman.

The lips are the spot where the physical relation begins and rightfully so. This is the best place to show a lot of passion because she can meet it with her own passion. Kissing is one thing that a woman likes to do even before and after sex and it is very possible that a kiss will turn her on better than touching her anywhere on her body. If you know how to use your lips, your tongue and your teeth to manipulate her lips just right through kissing, licking, sucking and biting, you may leave a tingle in her body that could lead to a lot more.