Thursday, May 13, 2010
8 Ways to Ruin a First Date
So you’ve convinced a woman to go out with you. After so much careful progress and planning, the last thing you need is to screw up on the first date. Although meeting a woman one-on-one can be nerve-wracking, a man only has one chance to make a good first impression. Ruining the first date is easy to do, but if you listen to at least a few of these warnings, you might just make it through the end of the date.
1. Arriving late
Showing up late is probably one of the biggest mistakes there are for a first date. It just starts the first date out on the completely wrong foot and shows your date that you're not very considerate. On the other hand, arriving early might give you the advantage of being able to see your date before she sees you.
2. Being too nervous
A woman understands that you may be a little nervous on a first date, but trying to calm your nerves by ordering too many alcoholic beverages can be disastrous. A woman doesn't want to kiss a man who's passed out, and she definitely doesn't want to have to carry you out of the restaurant. Keep your drinking to a minimum and don't get drunk and definitely don't try to get your date intoxicated.
3. Choosing the wrong venue
Certain types of venues are not appropriate for first dates. When considering good dating ideas, women want something that’s not too cheap, but also not too expensive. Taking your date out to a fast food joint tells her that you’re cheap and that you really don't care to impress her and might end the date early.
4. Talking about your past dates
Talking about your ex, your past experiences with your baby momma’s, or how your last girlfriend did you wrong, and most of all...talking about sex will definitely make your date feel uncomfortable...and could get you slapped!
5. Pretending to be someone you're not
A sure way to ruin a first date is to act like someone you are not. You don't have to be a macho, alpha male guy all the time. On the other hand, you don't have to be a needy wuss who lets a woman run all over you. Plain and simple--just be yourself. If you and your date aren't compatible, just accept it and move on.
6. Being too aggressive
Doing things like being too overly aggressive and touchy-feely with your date can put her off, especially being that you just met. Most women don’t like to be touched on the first date, so don’t start rubbing her leg or start tracing little light circles on her back with your fingers, telling her that you want to see her naked unless, of course, she tells you that she's completely comfortable with it. Show a woman you are interested by keeping your hands off.
7. Discussing your money problems
Although the economy is tough for nearly everyone right now, it's best to avoid a conversation about your lack of funds with a woman you'd like to take home. Although she may not judge you negatively for being broke, a woman wants to feel that she (and the bill) will be taken care of if she sticks with you.
8. Answering your cell phone
Regularly answering cell phone calls (especially from other women) while you are out together with your lady is a big no-no. A woman wants to feel that she's the full focus of your attention and will feel insulted and disrespected that you would take these calls right in front of her--especially if she already has told you that it bothers her.