Dealing With Manipulative Women

When you first start dating a woman and it's going well, you start to get comfortable with each other. But what happens when that sweet girl you were dating begins exhibiting female manipulation tricks to get her way?

Girls learn female manipulation tricks early in life, and any woman you're involved with is going to have a pretty good idea of what pushes your buttons and grabs your interest. Whether she's looking for forgiveness or a favor, you can bet that a manipulative woman will try every trick in the book to get her way to include using seduction, flattery, bribery and deception along with irrational, emotional means of persuasion.

Manipulative women who want you to go along with their requests or demands may come at you with the promise of tickets to a sporting event you've been talking about, a luxury item you've been eying, or even sexual bargaining, e.g., extra foreplay, provocative lingerie, etc... They use these methods to delve deep inside your head and persuade you to give into their demands, even to the point you'll find yourself changing your clothing, hairstyle and car according to their demands.

When all else fails, manipulative women will use the oldest trick in the book-- tears. All women know that the easiest way to make a man uncomfortable is to cry because they know that if they display a few well-placed tears with some pouty sniffles and streaming eyes, most guys will do anything to make the waterworks stop.

There's a simple way to deal with these controlling women--stop letting them get away with their behaviors and start setting limits! Learn to ignore a manipulative woman when she begins one of her tantrums and remove yourself from the situation if you feel any doubt about her sincerity. Refuse to be manipulated, expose her tricks and tell her to grow up. Remember, dating should be about partnership, honesty and equality, not about a woman taking advantage of you to get what she wants.

Dealing With Women's Mixed Signals

One of the many challenges that men face when it comes to dating is dealing with the mixed signals that a woman sends or seems to be sending. For example, one minute, she acts as if she wants to be with you. The next minute she acts as if she barely knows you. So, what’s really behind the mixed signals? The 5 tips listed below should help with how mixed signals should be taken from women:


1. Make sure you just aren't missing the point
There are many times when the signal is very clear, but you are trying to read more into it than what is really there. If a woman smiles at you, don’t assume that she's into you or that she wants you to ask her out on a date. People smile at one another all the time. Be sure you know whether it’s just her personality showing through or if there is actually a message being given.


2. Maybe she's just extremely nice
There are some women who are just extremely polite and pay lots of compliments to those around them. Some guys read this as flirting and then wonder why nothing ever came out of it. Pay attention to how she behaves around other people. She might be this polite to everyone, not just you. And maybe you are mistaking her being nice as one of the signs that she's interested in you.


3. She doesn't want a serious relationship
A woman who is interested in you might be very friendly to you at one point, touch you while talking to you and begin coming onto you pretty strong and just when you think everything is perfect, she fizzles out. What does it mean? What did you do wrong? Nothing! She was probably just not interested in a serious relationship.


4. She's confused
It’s very hard to know how to read women’s mixed signals when they are just as confused as you are. Sometimes a woman is confused about what she wants; but as a man, how long do you wait around for her to figure it out? It’s a thin line between a woman being confused and her stringing you along, so make it your business to find out early on, which is which. Your feelings will thank you in the long run.


5. Some women do it just for attention
Some women send mixed signals because they enjoy the attention they get from men when they flirt, play with her hair or do other things that make them look approachable and suggest that they might be interested in a guy, even if they are not. This gives them reassurance that they are attractive, wanted, and can get any guy if they want to.

5 Relationship Rules For Men

There are many do's and don’ts that apply to all men in every romantic relationship you'll start. Stick to these 5 basic rules for men in the beginning stages of any relationship and you won't go wrong.


1. Don't seem too enthusiastic around her
If you feel yourself falling hard for a woman, remember to give her room to breathe. Don't make the mistake of bombarding her with phone calls and unexpected visits. Give her time to miss you and want to be around you more. This, too, is one of the most important timeless dating rules. You have to increase her desire for youAs a general rule, don't initiate contact more than two times in a row; let her come to you once in a while. Most women like dating a nice guy, but no one likes a stalker!


2. Compliment her, but don't place her on a pedestal
Take the time to make her feel good about herself with occasional compliments, but part of being in a lasting relationship with a woman is getting to know and accept her faults and shortcomings also. Don't get me wrong--if your lady looks beautiful, tell her, just don't begin treating her like a goddess until the relationship has matured and she has earned that kind of treatment. Overly complimenting women early in a relationship comes across as desperate and overbearing.


3. Don't rush things
A good way to run a woman off is to tell her you love her on the first date or doing things like planning a wedding the first week of dating. As silly as these things sound, guys make these mistakes all the time. Allow the relationship develop at its own pace.


4. Don't discuss other women around her
Even if it's still early in your relationship and things aren't serious just yet, you can be respectful and let her know if you're dating others, but don't go into the explicit details under no circumstances should you check out other women in front of her.


5. Don't let yourself go
It's normal to start feeling comfortable around a woman after you've been with her for a while; however, you'll should not forget about keeping yourself up. You should be able to relax around your lady, but you should avoid wearing the stained t-shirts and becoming a real slob around her and focus on maintaining the same qualities that attracted her to you in the first place.

5 Signs You're a Commitment-Phobe

 

It's important for men to understand that when things begin to get serious, women tend to expect the two of you to become exclusive and start planning a future together. However, if you always find reasons to back away and sabotage a good relationship once your partner begins asking for a little more, it's a safe bet that you suffer from commitment-phobia and a deep fear of intimacy. Here are 5 signs that you're a commitment-phobe.


1. You're only respond to contact that is sexual
You regularly ignore texts, calls and emails from your girlfriend suggesting dinner, a movie night, or time with her family and friends, yet you quickly reply reliably and consistently to anything sexual i.e., hints towards sleeping together, dirty text messages, etc...This behavior shows women that the only thing on your mind is having fun with no-strings-attached sex.


2. You constantly flirt with other women 
Constantly flirting with other women and/or constantly getting caught staring at other women when you're in a relationship is a big sign that you're not ready for a commitment. Guys like this usually have a history of infidelity.


3. You become distant for no reason
You begin spending less and less time with your girlfriend (and don't really mind the time apart) although nothing is wrong in your relationship.This might be a sign that you're drifting away due to your fear of commitment.


4. You look down on serious or married couples
You often find yourself talking badly about men who are married, or who are taking care of children. Being turned off by the idea of family is a pretty good sign that you don’t care much for a deep commitment with a woman and would rather be alone.


5. You lose interest when things get serious
You love the chase but not the capture and often use the excuse that you haven't found the right woman yet. You have a history of brief, passionate relationships that end fairly quickly and you're quick to blame the former girlfriends for the breakups.


Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on the 5 Signs She's Not Ready To Commit.

Dating Women Who've Been Abused

You've been dating your girlfriend for a while now. She's had some pretty bad past relationships, one of which was a physically abusive one. You believe she has put it behind her, but you can still see the pain at times when she is thinking about it. How can you help her through it?

First, you have to allow her to see that you are here to support her and are in no way like her former abusive boyfriend. In order to do that, you have to first understand some of the signs of a victim in an abusive relationship. You have to realize that she has been kicked, hit, shoved, or had things thrown at her by her former boyfriend when he was angry.Most women who have been abused feel as if they have to walk on eggshells to keep a man from getting angry, are constantly apologizing and are easily frightened by a man's temper. She may also even be afraid to tell you about her worries and feelings due to ridicule and belittlement from her past lover.

You can express your concern about her past relationships and whether they may still be affecting her and ask if she wants to talk about it. If she does, you can ask her what she needs and wants from you. But if she doesn't want to talk about it (yet), respect her wishes. If you push her to do something against her wishes, you'd be violating her boundaries and you'd run the risk of being perceived as abusive yourself. Try to be aware if any way of your behaviors that you might be accidentally be doing that might be triggering her into thinking of past abuse.

The best way to help a woman with emotional baggage see that you are in no way like her past boyfriends is to make sure you're in no way like her past boyfriends--at least, not where physical and emotional abuse are concerned.

Dating Abusive Women

So you come in the door and greet your woman. "Hi sweetheart, I'm home. I missed you.' The response you get shows you the night is going to be long and dreadful."Where the hell have you been, your 10 minutes late you piece of trash." Then you duck as a plate or knife comes flying toward your head.

It is a widely held assumption that women are always the victims and men are always the perpetrators; however, there is a great majority of men who suffer in silence in the face of physical abuse from their women. These men feel shame, fear, and choose to ignore the abuse and live with it. Although we live in a society where the abuse of men is not a mainstream concern, abuse is abuse and if people combat it when the victim is a woman, the same compassion should be offered to men.

Although men are usually raised with the idea that hitting women is a major no-no, there are some very cruel and abusive women in relationships who feel it’s perfectly fine to slap, push, throw objects, force or slam doors and even use weapons against their man when he says or does something they don't like. These women with emotional baggage who are abusive toward men usually have unrealistic expectations. These women make unrealistic demands of men and feel like they can inflict any kind physical pain on their men without fear of repercussion due to the man's fear of criminal charges, losing his job, etc...

So what type of women are most likely to abuse their men? Women who abuse men are frequently alcoholics. Many other manipulative women that display this type of behavior suffer from certain psychological problems. At least half of all domestic abuse and violence against men is associated with women who suffer from borderline personality disorder--a diagnosis that is found almost exclusively with women. These women will typically experience repeated episodes of depression, anxiety and irritability which they attribute to a man's behavior when in fact, their mental and emotional state is the result of their own insecurities, emotional problems, trauma during childhood or even withdrawal from alcohol. These women would rather blame their men for their problems rather than take responsibility for how they live their lives and typically refuse to treatment and may even insist that the man needs treatment.

So why do we know so little of domestic violence against men? First of all, violence against men statistics are so low that it is hard to get reliable estimates. Secondly, in the minds of abusive women in relationships, a man is less likely to tell someone about suffering physical violence at the hands of his woman if he believes he’ll be thought of as weak and pathetic wuss. Even when men do report domestic abuse and violence, most people are so astonished men usually end up feeling like nobody believes them.

There needs to be more support for abused men and fathers. For those men who are unfortunate enough to be in an abusive relationship remember--there is nothing to be ashamed of in reporting abuse or asking for help and it is definitely wrong to walk away from a woman who is abusing you instead of hitting her back. Doing this is an admirable trait. Hopefully, you will soon be able to walk away, along with your children, to a better future.

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5 Reasons Men Cheat

At some level, all men know that cheating is wrong, yet some still do it. Cheating might feel like a quick escape from relationship problems and an easy alternative to the burden of an inevitable breakup, but in reality, it is not a long-term solution and is usually a symptom of a bigger problem. Here are 5 reasons why some guys opt to shed their devotion and cheat on their women.


1. She doesn't turn you on anymore
A lot of women in long-term relationships with men become lazy and no longer concern themselves with staying as fit and attractive as they once were. You may still think that your lady is beautiful, but may simply feel that having sex with her has become boring and is not as exciting as it once was.


2. She's a nag
Cheating with another woman is a common escape from constant nagging and fighting with the girlfriend who thrives on making her man feel like crap.


3. She won't put out
Long-term relationships seem to drain the sex drive out of many women, leaving some men gasping for fulfillment. It could be that the sex has become boring, she doesn't want to try new things in bed, etc...With the need for more sex and better intimacy, some guys will start looking for it elsewhere.


4. It's challenging and exciting
Nothing lifts a man's self-esteem like discovering that other women still desire him sexually. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the chase and the conquest. It's a fact that most men can't say "no" to sex. Although guys aren't constantly approached with sexual offers, sometimes opportunities with women seemingly as sexy as superstar Halle Berry present themselves. A guy may see it as once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that may never be available again.


5. Revenge for her cheating
For many men, the only way to relieve their anger and get back at their unfaithful girlfriends is by cheating to even the score.