4 Ways to Keep Her Attention

Since the beginning of time, men have sought the attention of women, but very few know the key skills necessary to make a lasting impression on the women they want. In dating, making a woman come to you is the easy part; however, keeping her attention is the real challenge. Here are 4 ways to grab a woman's attention and keep it once you get it.





1. Be mysterious

A mistake most men make is exchanging their entire life story with a woman, especially on the first date. Women like a little mystery; however, this doesn't mean you should be boring and play the silent type. It just means you should be less forthcoming with details about your life. If a woman thinks she has you figured out, she will get bored; however, feed her a bit, but keep her curiosity growing and her interest in you will do the same. Don't lie to her or play mind games, but leave something hidden which will make her come back for more.





2. Make her miss you

Limiting your availability at the onset will also raise your value in her eyes, as it indicates that you have a sense of independence. As a relationship develops, it is essential to have a life of your own, so let her know that you have places to go and people to see. Let her wonder where you are, whom you're with and where you're going, and she will hope to cross paths with you more often than you think. You know the expression about absence making the heart grow fonder? Well, it's true.





3. Be interesting

A man with ideas, dreams and ambitions is exciting to be around. Women never feel attraction for a guy they perceive as desperate, needy or eager to please, but come across as a confident, self-aware guy who has a lot going on in his life and you'll be on the fast track to becoming irresistible to women. What woman could help but pay attention to a man that is engaged in the world, capable of bringing new and enlightening ideas into her world and constantly seeks personal growth and improvement?





4. Improve yourself

Most guys don’t take the time to work on themselves, but just as men demand that their women be good-looking, women demand and deserve the same. If you really want to grab a woman’s attention — and keep it — then be one of the few men who take the time to develop themselves into the kind of guy worthy of an amazing woman’s attention. Make sure you choose the right cologne, develop a good sense of style, stay well-groomed and always look your best.

Top 10: Things Not to Say to Your Girlfriend

As every man knows, there are some things you just can’t come right out and say to your girlfriend. Nevertheless, we're all probably guilty of saying something that we shouldn't have said to our girlfriends, and probably copped quite bit of heat from it too. While these secret thoughts can easily slip out during brain-dead moments, many relationship problems can be avoided by simply keeping your big mouth closed. Remove the following 10 phrases from your love lingo and you’ll reap the rewards.


1. "I'm not in the mood."
There are many excuses women use in the bedroom to get out of sex, from washing their hair to headaches. But if a guy says he's too tired or just not up for a go, all she will hear is you telling her she’s fat, or that you've already got some from your hot secretary at work.


2. "I hate your friends!"
Like it or not, a woman’s friends can have a huge influence on your relationship with her. If you want to keep your relationship running smoothly, always treat her friends with courtesy and politeness, even if it means being a little fake with the ones you can’t stand.


3. "Why do you talk so much?"
Unfortunately, most men don't realize that a woman's idea of communication means listening to what she has to say. If you value the relationship, you should listen to her. Otherwise you might risk having her find another man who will.


4. "I think we should have a threesome."
Sorry guys, but most women will simply refuse to get involved in a situation that they believe is a potential threat to their relationship, such as a threesome. Furthermore, merely suggesting the idea of a threesome can disintegrate your relationship and make her feel as though you're not really interested in having a serious relationship.

5. "You're just like my ex."

Your current girlfriend trusts that you’ve completely moved on from your ex. Bringing up your ex in any light makes it sound as though you’re still hung up on the past. Your safest bet is to not even bring up your ex, in any circumstance, unless you want a passive aggressive fight with your girlfriend later.

6. "Your friend is hot!"

You may find her friend extremely attractive, but don't tell your girlfriend that. Even if she says her friend is pretty, don’t agree too enthusiastically. Women are competitive and even the most confident women in the world don’t want to know you’re thinking about their friends in that way.


7. "You've really put on some weight."
Even if making this statement does have the desired effect and your girlfriend goes on to drop a few pounds, she’ll never forgive you for pointing it out so bluntly and making her feel like crap in the process. So, if you think she’s put on a few pounds, keep it to yourself or consider some more subtle methods of letting her know that you’re displeased with her recent weight gain.


8. "I've had better sex."
Even the most sexually liberal woman might have second thoughts if all you do is boast or reminisce to her about how great your past sexual encounters with other women were. Depending on her reaction to this statement, you might find yourself out of a relationship and/or sexual partner.


9. "You're just like your mother."
Likening your girlfriend to her mother is a surefire way to turn her off and can lead to many relationship problems, whether you are right or wrong. Even if you meant this as a compliment, your girl will focus on the wrinkled, crabby aspects of her mother rather than the caring and nurturing ones.


10. "Why are you so emotional?"
To us guys, women are naturally irrational and illogical beings who will cry for no reason and get mad at the smallest things. But when your girlfriend is being emotional, don't ridicule her for it; instead show her some love, tough it out and listen to her.

The Importance of Making Women Laugh

Is there anything more attractive than a guy who can make women laugh? Using humor can relieve the nervous tension of first date jitters and level the ground between you, negate worries about "not being or looking good enough" and draw a man and a woman closer together. Even though some women fall for a guy's impressive job, savings account or his sexy body, the ability to make them laugh is a renowned dating and flirting strategy that works every time--if you know how to use it right.

Whether you realize it or not, humor is critical to your success with women. In fact, a sense of humor usually tops a woman's attraction wish list and is one of the best ways to turn her on. A woman who finds herself laughing along with your great sense of humor is a girl who is more likely to fall for your charms. Another key component of laughter is that when you’re funny around women, it presents you as the kind of guy who’s fun to be with, and if a woman is really interested romantically, she'll laugh at your jokes--even if they aren't funny!

Although laughter is a very effective dating technique, many guys get it completely wrong when they try to be funny around women. Guys who are desperately trying to seek a woman's approval do things like slap-sticky humor or act like a clown, making it obvious that they're trying to make her laugh and coming across as goofy or dorky. Not good.

In order to get a woman laughing and attracted at the same time, you have to get an idea as to what she may find amusing and tease her; however, this doesn't mean be a jerk. It means using gestures, facial expressions and voice tone to create a fun and flirty vibe and assume familiarity with her by doing things like mocking her voice, telling her funny jokes and stories and using your humor to break the touch barrier while making her laugh at the same time.

The only downside to this strategy is that when you're only teasing and making women laugh, you're not showing them the other parts of your personality. Humor is an effective tool, don’t get me wrong, but don’t rely on it to create attraction all by itself. When meeting new women, you don’t necessarily want to kick off every discussion with a joke. Instead, learn a little bit about the woman first and ask her questions, then once you’ve got her talking, you will gain access to more of her personality and seem like a more well-rounded and interesting type of guy.

When it comes to creating attraction, humor can be your most effective tool when you're talking to a woman. Not only will showing off your great sense of humor get a girl to laugh--it's bound to ensure that both of you enjoy your time spent together.

5 Skills That Impress Women

Women like a man who is confident in his abilities and can take care of himself (and them too if the need arises). They also appreciate an array of skills in men ranging from complex ones that show off masculinity to the emotional ones which indicate a guy's softer side. Although it's virtually impossible to impress every woman with the same one or two skills, here are the top five skills that impress women.


1. Being able to cook
Just about every woman is a little bit pleasantly surprised to discover that a guy can cook, actually wants to cook and seems to genuinely know what he's doing in the kitchen. You don’t have to start taking cooking classes, shop for expensive cookware or throw together an artistic dinner to impress a woman. Just start with a few basic recipes and practice them till they turn out right. As long the meals you prepare for her taste good and look and smell appetizing, you’re impressing her.


2. Being able to fix a car
Although not all men are crazy about engines or getting grease all over their sleeves and hands, in order to impress a woman, it is usually enough to be able to maintain a car correctly, replace a flat tire and diagnose basic car troubles correctly instead of opening the hood and looking confused.


3. Being able to speak a foreign language
A woman is bound to be impressed by a man who can speak a foreign language, especially when you just let it come up at the right moment. Apart from the fact speaking a foreign language requires certain level of intelligence and is a skill that is more difficult to learn as an adult, it is also a sign of worldliness, which intrigues women.


4. Being a handyman
It's very impressive to a woman when you're willing to get your hands dirty and can be relied upon to maintain a home and perform basic repairs.


5. Being able to converse with them
Women are impressed by men who can express their opinions and feelings in a masculine way. Unfortunately, most men don't realize that a woman's idea of communication means actually listening to what she has to say and understanding her, as well as relate to her problems without judging her or providing unwanted advice. When you learn how to listen to a woman and adequately express yourself, she will feel understood and respected and you will experience fewer communication problems in your relationship.

4 Signs She's Playing Hard to Get

So you found a girl who really gets your attention. But one thing that you notice is that she seems kind of out of it, like she doesn't really want your attention. Or does she? Let's face it: Attractive women get a lot of attention and are approached all the time by men. They are often far too subtle and indirect -- or just plain confusing -- when revealing their romantic interest; therefore, they need quick, easy ways to figure out if you're either a self-confident guy who can see through their games or just another wuss that easily gives up at the first sign of resistance.

For a woman, playing hard to get is a game that is meant to drive men crazy yet keep them coming back for more. The trouble comes when guys don't know if a woman is playing hard to get or is just genuinely not interested in interacting with them. So with that in mind, here are 4 signs she's playing hard to get.

1. She tests you to see how long you'll chase her

You've gotten her number, but when you dial her digits, all you get is her answering machine. A couple of days pass, you call her again and she happens to answer the phone, apologizing for not having called you earlier because she was busy. She always has a full schedule (or pretends that she does). So what's the real reason why didn't she call you when she had the chance? It may be because she wants to be pursued, but doesn't want to look too available.

If you call a woman to set up a date with her, she may tell you that she is busy that particular night, to call her next week when her schedule is not as hectic. Doing this shows she's interested in going out with you, but containing her eagerness. She may even agree to go out with you on a certain night and then at the last minute, calls and cancels to reschedule. Although this is a risky move on her part, she may be checking to see how you will take the bad news and if you are still really interested in going out with her.

2. She flirts like crazy, then stops
A woman who is playing hard to get will seemingly want to know everything about you i.e., quiz you about your family, your background, and your tastes in things like food, music and movies, then abruptly change the subject by moving the conversation elsewhere. More than likely, what she's doing is trying to catalog your interests so that she can slowly bond with you when she's ready.


3. She talks about other guys you don't know
Another sign a woman is playing hard to get is when she brings up co-workers from work or male friends and makes light conversations on how cute or funny they are in order to ignite a little jealously and make you work harder for her attention.


4. She teases you, then pulls away
If she smiles when you check her out, plays with her hair, leans toward you while talking and briefly stares into your eyes with passion to build up tension, then suddenly breaks away when you move in for the kiss or some neck action, she may well be playing hard to get and trying to see how hard you'll really work for her affection.

Playing hard to get is part of the dating game, not to mention the part that makes it fun; however, if she has your number, but is busy all the time and continuously makes no attempt to keep the window of possibility open with you, she's not playing hard to get--she's just not interested in you.

Dating After Divorce

After years of being married, putting yourself back in the singles market can be scary, especially if you had little previous dating experience or if the divorce was particularly traumatic. Between kids, potential step-relations, money issues and exes, dating after divorce can be a tricky and stressful endeavor. So if you're a newly single man who is considering dating again, here are a few important guidelines you should follow in order to make an easier transition back into the world of dating.

After being married for an extended period of time, the most important aspect at this point is to reevaluate your thoughts and feelings, not rush into anything and don't let others push you into dating prematurely. Some people take longer than others to move on, so if you feel shaky and fragile, or if there are still bitter feelings from the divorce, you may need to give yourself more time before getting out and dating again.

You have likely lost track of your single self, neglected old friendships, dropped out of your old Monday-night bowling league, let your physical health go, or even completely forgotten about your favorite hobbies. Now is the time to reconnect with your individual self, start watching what you eat, doing "guy" things with friends and buying yourself some flattering new clothes that make you look and feel good.

Once you feel somewhat confident in going out and dating again after the divorce, you should take some time to think through what kind of women you would like to attract and then put yourself in a position to meet them. The last thing you want is to go out and find a carbon copy of your ex-wife and make the same mistake all over again. By the same token, don't make it a point to find someone who's the exact opposite either. Take advantage of the many opportunities to meet new women at places like church groups, gyms or local social clubs to get your feet wet.

When you officially get back in the dating game, be respectful of your own needs and proud of what you have to offer in a relationship. Embrace all the lessons from your failed marriage so that you can go out and find what you really want. Don’t let post-divorce loneliness or insecurity make you lower your expectations because not only will dating unsuitable women make you feel poorly, it will also model a very negative relationship for your children if you have any.

There is not as much of a social stigma as there once was and there really is no need to hide the fact that you have are divorced, so be honest about your history whenever you're out on a date. Keep the conversation positive and upbeat without sharing too much and avoid discussing your ex even if your date demonstrates great concern and curiosity about what you might have been through.

It’s OK to briefly mention the basic circumstances of your divorce; however, telling your dates about how your dirty skank of an ex cheated on you or how she did you wrong will make you come off sounding bitter and vengeful--not exactly traits women are looking for in a man! Furthermore, NEVER compare any women you meet to your ex-wife as that may signal that you haven't moved on and are not yet ready for a new woman in your life.

Trying to rush into a new long term relationship is one of the biggest dating mistakes men make after their marriage does not work out. You don't want to rush things, so take your time, get some experience under your belt and really discover whom you want to be with and what you really want in a relationship.

Top 10: Female Turn Offs

Every time you approach a new woman you’re risking rejection, which can feel awful. But if you’re finding that you’re constantly striking out with the ladies, you may be doing things that turn women off without even realizing it. Below are 10 things you could be doing right now that make women cringe.


1. Wearing too much cologne
While a nice-smelling cologne, after-shave or deodorant can be very sexy and really entice a female, too much of a good thing can spell disaster.


2. Being preoccupied with sex
Men who are preoccupied with sex are a huge turnoff because women want to be valued for things other than their bodies. Women do not want to feel as though sex is all that men want from them, and they definitely aren't impressed by how many other women you've slept with, or how much your last girlfriend liked your techniques.

3. Displaying poor grooming habits

Women are not generally attracted to men with inadequate grooming, to include smelling bad, having bad breath, unkempt fingernails and wearing wrinkled clothing.


4. Using lame pick-up lines
While most guys have the best intentions in mind when using pick-up lines, most women don't like them and the only things you can be assured of using these bad one-offs is making a bad first impression, a slap in the face and a drink on your shirt.


5. Giving insincere compliments
Women love compliments; however, those who have had enough experience with men trying to pick them up can spot insincerity quickly. If you make too many or too big a compliment, most women won't believe you and will wonder what your hidden agenda is.


6. Talking about your ex
Your first conversation on a date with a new woman should be fun and intriguing, not consumed with emotional baggage and especially not discussions about your ex. Women view men that can't stop talking about their ex non-stop as having unresolved frustrations and pent-up bitterness.


7. Being distracted by your cell phone
One of the biggest turn-offs among women is when their dates appear too distracted to pay any attention to them. When women find their dates fiddling with the mobile phone or constantly checking the watch, it either means that the man is bored or very rude. If you have taken the trouble of asking a woman out, then do have the courtesy to give her your attention.


8. Calling too often
If you want to run a woman off quickly, one of the best ways to do it is to overly call and leave her a slew of messages early in a relationship, especially when she hasn't returned any of your messages.


9. Displaying weird habits
Strange ticks, picking scabs, nail biting, mumbling, looking down, constantly licking your lips or displaying any other weird behaviors make you appear nervous and send women headed for the hills.


10. Being arrogant
Although most women love strong, confident men as previously discussed, talking too much about yourself could make you look narcissistic and lower her interest level.


Check out our other Top 10s, like the Top 10: Worst Pick Up Lines and the Top 10: Reasons Why She's Single.