How To Handle Running Into An Ex

It's over between you and her. You're both moving on, but sooner or later it's going to happen: You'll bump into an ex-girlfriend. A spur-of-the-moment run-in with your ex can often be an awkward experience, whether or not it’s something you wanted to happen. Sometimes you’re so caught off-guard that you say or do something you end kicking yourself for after she walks away. Here are some tips for how you can better handle running into your ex.


1. Ignore old feelings
When you see your ex walk in the room, take the time to focus on something else before you speak to her. You want to feel normal and at ease or else you may say or do something to make a fool out of yourself. Forget that you once cared for the girl and treat her as just another old distant friend.


2. Be kind to her
Chances are that running into her is not by choice and there are many innocent bystanders around, so force yourself to take the high road and be respectful to her just like you would with anyone else.


3. Keep the conversation short
If you keep things short, there is less time for anything awkward to be said. Say your hellos and avoid the long conversations of catching up. Don’t bring up old issues and don't allow your ex to make you wander down memory lane and re-kindle old times of love and tenderness. There’s no point to it; leave the past in the past. Even if you have lingering questions you'd like answered, you’re probably standing in a place where they're inappropriate to discuss anyway.


4. Bring up good things about your life
You don’t need to brag or throw your new girlfriend in your ex’s face, but you can mention something positive that’s going on in your life. For example, if your ex asks how your life is going, respond with, “It’s going great; I just got a new job, or something along those lines. Just make sure it’s true; otherwise, if you get caught in a lie, it will only make you look foolish.

Although it's always hard to see an ex, remind yourself why things didn’t work out. It is very important to remember that you broke up for a reason. You were not meant to be, so remember what it is that you want to have in your next relationship.

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5 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back

Just because a relationship ends, it doesn’t mean that both people wanted it to or are ready to move on. When your ex-girlfriend is finally ready to reconcile your relationship, she's going to give off several obvious and subtle signals. She'll use words, body language, and other ways to give you the green light that she's ready to get back together. Here are 5 of the strongest signs that your ex wants to get back with you:


1. She still acts like your girlfriend
If she still does the same exact things she did as your girlfriend; in her mind she may still be your girlfriend.


2. She runs into you everywhere
If your ex-girlfriend seems to continuously run into you whether you are shopping at the mall or jogging in the park, shows up at old hangouts, parties or friends houses when you are there and makes other excuses to see you, it could mean she wants you back.


3. She asks about your love life
Your ex doesn't want you moving on if she's still attracted to you. So if another girl is mentioned during a conversation about your personal life and you see she is uncomfortable or angry, she still considers you her man and she wants you back. Furthermore, if she starts telling you she doesn't have a boyfriend yet, chances are she's trying to see if you're still interested.


4. She wants to talk about your breakup
She looks at you or touches you the same as when she first met you and talks about how things could have been better. She might even apologize for something she said, tell you about her regrets make a sincere effort to explain and make it right if she suspects that she's done something to upset or disappoint you.


5. She makes an effort to improve herself for you
She lets you know that she's doing her best to make herself more attractive to you. This includes working though inner issues, improving personal appearance, getting a better job or anything else that bugged you in the past.

5 Signs She's Not Into You

So you've been chasing that certain woman for while. She flirts with other men in front of you and rarely calls you, but you continue to hope for the one day when you'll get out of the FRIENDZONE and she'll see the light and fall into your arms. But after some time passes, how do you know when to continue your pursuit and to walk away with your dignity intact? If she displays the signs listed below, you can be pretty certain that she's not into you.


1. She always cancels plans with you
It is certainly fair to occasionally cancel plans for a legitimate reason, but if she bails consistently, it not only shows that she's not interested, but that she holds little respect for you at all and that you're just the guy she looks too just in case she doesn't have anything better to do. If she does this, move on and do it quickly.


2. Her "perfect man" is nothing like you
She tells you she wants a bad boy who is exciting and dangerous. You are a sensitive guy who listens and has manners and class. Take this as a kind hint that you are not her perfect man. Most likely, though, you are in the "friend zone" which means that you are just like one of her girlfriends that she shares her thoughts with and nothing further. Although she may eventually fall in love with that sensitive guy--it won't be with you.


3. She tries to hook you up with other women
For whatever reason, she doesn't see you as relationship material for her. If she's actually trying to hook you up with other women, the message should be clear: She definitely doesn't want you for herself.


4. She avoids eye contact and physical proximity
Don't think you can disregard a woman's feelings of attraction and gradually sell her with your inner beauty. If she constantly avoids making eye contact with you and keeps you at arm's length at all times, take it as a sign that you're not her type. If a woman is attracted to you, she will naturally want to be close to you and make eye contact.


5. She tells you she's not ready for a relationship
When a woman says this to you, what she really means is that she does not want to be in a relationship with you! Women often use this one when they feel cornered by someone they are not interested in. For a woman, saying this to a man leaves no room for a counterargument.

Dealing With The Drama Queen

It's no secret that women need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth in a relationship; however, drama queens have low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure. To counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the center of attention.

Drama queens make the worst kind of girlfriends for a lot of reasons. Drama queens have the emotional age of a young child and will often exhibit temper tantrums, deceit, lying and manipulation. These manipulative women often come from dysfunctional families and will exploit the suffering of others to gain attention for themselves. One of the most obvious warning signs that you're with a drama queen is when you're constantly being told things like "look at me."

Drama queens suddenly develop mysterious illnesses at the most inconvenient times, like just before you and your buddies are about to go watch the big game or have a guys night out. They are master manipulators and somehow always manage to get their way, whether it’s by guilt-tripping (emotional-bullying), sabotage, or just cold-hearted calculation.

These women like it when other people fail, particularly your family and friends. They may also exploit your relationship with family members and friends, manipulating others with guilt and distorting perceptions and will cause you to suffer emotional injuries. Every incident or opportunity with this type of woman, no matter how insignificant, is exaggerated, distorted and elevated to dramatic, crisis proportions.

The longer a man is in this situation, the more he will grow accustomed to these behaviors and stay in the relationship far longer than he should. Don’t expect to be able to live any kind of normal life outside of your relationship with a drama queen. Ask yourself if your woman displays any of these red flags. If you answered yes, you may want to consider the fact that she’s nuts!

5 Ways to Ruin a Good Relationship

The dating world can be harsh and finding somebody worthy of your time can be difficult. Once you’ve found the right woman and developed a serious relationship with her, you should find new ways to make your woman feel special, not run her off. If there’s anything a woman hates, it’s being taken for granted. If she’s worth keeping, avoid the behaviors listed below.


1. Cheating
What most women consider being unfaithful goes far beyond having sex with someone else.If you are kissing, caressing, going down or having sex with another woman while you're in a monogamous relationship--you're cheating. Furthermore, if you are committing more time to another female and actually enjoying spending quality time with her more than your girlfriend, there is a problem. Your girlfriend doesn't want to be second best and wants to feel like she can trust and confide in you.


2. Developing an unkempt appearance
Going from the sophisticated GQ style to beer-belly and wife-beaters as soon as you’re comfortable with her tells her that you were just putting on a show to initially attract her and that your really don't care what you look like to her. Keeping yourself up is very important in a relationship. If she was attracted to you when you were wearing nice suits, chances are that’s what she likes, and she may stop being attracted to you if you get too comfortable and downgrade to dingy t-shirts and faded jeans.


3. Being a controlling man
Although women have a reputation for being clingy, they also enjoy their independence. Being jealous and overly-critical of her friends, telling her where and when to do things is a sure fire way to run her off. There are situations in which she may want your input or advice, but otherwise, don’t be pushy with advice or demands. Don't be a pushover, but you have to give her space and let her make her own decisions.


4. Not making enough time for her
Although you may want to do all of the things you did when you were single, you also have to make time for your woman. It may be tough at times, but sometimes you will have to give up the video games and time with pals in order to spend time together.


5. Taking her for granted
Once you become serious in a relationship, your woman will expect to be wooed the same way she was when you first won her over. If you stop complimenting her or stop taking her out, she will feel neglected. Doing the little things like asking her about what's going on in her life, telling her she's beautiful or calling or texting her in the middle of the day just to tell her you're thinking about her will make her feel special. Remember,if you don’t pay attention to her, a lot of other men will.

5 First Date Mistakes Men Make

Women always notice the little details, and when it comes to first dates, most men don't know when they're messing up. Remember, the first date with a woman is crucial, and performing any of these 5 mistakes below may destroy your chances of ever getting a second date.


1. Being poorly groomed
Poor grooming includes body odor, having bad breath, botching your shave job, and wearing wrinkled clothes. Don't forget the basics. Always check yourself in the mirror for a last minute touch up before approaching her.


2. Having weird habits
Avoid displaying nervous ticks, picking scabs, constantly licking your lips or displaying any other little tics that make you look nervous. Before you start talking to her, take a deep breath and focus.


3. Staring at her breasts
One of the worst things you can do when talking to a woman is to seem more interested in her breasts than in her face. Men who stare at cleavage and talk to women like their objects are unlikely to get many dates.


4. Looking at other women
When you're caught staring at other women, you can expect to be constantly accused of things like lying and cheating. You must give her your undivided attention. Keep your attention on her the whole time and when you're talking to her, don't let your eyes roam around the room, checking out other beautiful girls.


5. Being stuck on yourself
Talking too much about yourself could make you look narcissistic and lower her interest level. When you talk to her, keep the conversation focused on things like her career, family and her likes and dislikes and avoid talking about sex, politics and religion until you know her better.

How To Awaken Her Sexuality

Many women don’t have enjoyable sexual interaction. In fact, many women have had so little good sex that they’ve actually become sexually dormant. Women seem to develop this natural response when they’re at a time in their lives when they don’t have enjoyable sexual interaction and they seem to accept it and simply live with it.

Too often women get into a routine where they have sex at the same time, at the same place. Some women, especially those with kids, often get so wrapped up in the day-to-day routine that they forget about pleasure all together. Stop and think about what types of sex that you and your partner are missing out on and experiment with some new methods and locations.

So how do you become the guy that makes her forget everything outside, and feel and experience things inside that she’s always wanted? The first thing to do is to effectively communicate about sex with her. Be attentive, ask questions and encourage her to tell you what she likes, what she imagines you doing to her, etc.. Let her know that all her fantasies are acceptable.

Also, try treating your woman to some hot lingerie, draw her a long sensual baths or light some candles in order to reacquaint your woman with her sensual side. Also, learn to touch and kiss her in many ways (light, slow,intense, etc..) Touching releases powerful chemicals in a woman's body that she can literally feel and allows sexual tension to build and build.

Awakening her sexuality with care and skill will allow you to find the direct path to those intense, throbbing passions deep inside her. Making a woman feel mind-blowing pleasure can be fantastic and very enjoyable, but remember-once her sexuality has awoken, be prepared to deal with it!