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Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Dating Married Women
So you’ve pulled out all your best moves and have made progress with the beautiful woman been dating. When you finally get to the point when you feel your relationship is going to the next level, she smiles and says: "I'm married." That information would have been nice to have known at the beginning of the relationship.
Most married women who cheat on their husbands claim that they do it because their husband has either been unfaithful, controlling since they've been married or use the excuse that she just hasn't been happy in years. While some of these statements may be true, most married women often have affairs due to purely selfish desire and sheer boredom.
In the very beginning of this type of relationship, you will see a lot of your new lover. Secret dates will be established and the excitement along with some short term dramatic and passionate sex will make you feel alive. While this may sound good for a little while, you have to realize that when you're dating a married woman, you are not a couple-- so don't fool yourself. Sure you may act like a couple when you are together, but you aren't.
At some point you'll get tired of having to sneak a kiss or a hug, ducking and dodging, having to meet somewhere secretly to be together and spending all your money on a woman who's not yours and who still sleeps with her husband. This type of manipulative woman will constantly tell you lies and fill your head with promises that she'll leave her husband when the time is right so the two of you can get married and "live happily ever after." However, in most cases, that time will never come.
So, what should you do if you find yourself approached with this situation? You should move on with your life and find a woman who is not already taken. Never fool yourself here--if you're looking for a strong, committed relationship, dating a married woman is a complete waste of time.
Consider the impact having an affair with a married person will have on your self-image. Besides wrecking other people's lives, being the "other man" will sap your dignity and self-worth despite what approach you may take. If you really value and understand yourself and you truly believe that there are some single, high-quality women out there, why would you waste your time dating a woman who's already taken?
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Women Who Trap Men Into Pregnancy
What happens when you are stuck in a bad relationship with a woman and you're on the verge of breaking up with her, but she's willing to whatever it takes to keep you in her life and make sure you take care of her --even getting pregnant on purpose?
Everybody knows that unless a woman decides to artificially inseminate herself, conceiving a child takes is a two person act and if you decide to have unprotected sex with a woman, then you should be man enough to accept the consequences. However, there are some desperate women out there who feel that their relationship is so bad that they need to trap the man and get pregnant just so he'll stay with her and hopefully marry her.
These women insist on having unprotected sex and usually use lines like "I can't feel it with the condom on--just take it off" and attempt to use guilt trips on you, i.e., "If you love me, why do you need a condom?" These women will intentionally stop using their birth control without the man knowing and will even go as far as tampering with condoms prior to intercourse, i.e., putting a pin through their boyfriend's condom package without the guy ever suspecting it.
These manipulative women who perform these awful acts of immaturity have tunnel vision for their lives and in a way feel that they have to "fight for their man." This type of woman wants the man she's with to be with her for the rest of her life only because she doesn't think it's possible to find someone else to love her. They think that being with a man is the key to their happiness, suffer with low self esteem, think very poorly of themselves and feel that "If you have a baby with him, he is yours forever."
The main reason why these women are willing to get pregnant on purpose in order to keep a man is how they were raised thinking about life, men, and marriage. These women are raised to be gold diggers and to depend on men as much as possible--not in how to take care of and support themselves. Many of them have been taught that when they get pregnant by a guy, he is suppose to take care of her and the baby and that even if he goes off and dates another woman, he would eventually always have to come back to her. They fail to realize that a child is not going to fix it as it is well-known that a great percentage of men who become daddies don't marry their "Baby's Mamas."
Ensure that you utilize your own protection and keep it on your person until it's time to utilize it. Avoid accepting condoms from a woman (especially a desperate one) and never, ever take her word that she's on birth control. A woman who insists on having unprotected sex prior to marriage is usually one to avoid.
If you don't want to continue the relationship with her now, think about how you'll always have a bond with her for the rest of her life by sharing a child together. If you want to avoid the fighting, drama and chaos that comes with dealing with a baby's mama, it would be wise to end all sexual relations with a woman that you're ready to break up with any way and move on while you still can without any attachments!
Saturday, December 26, 2009
Buying Lingerie For Your Girlfriend
Many women love receiving lingerie from the man in their life, and most men love giving it as a gift. The appeal of the gift comes from a woman feeling sexy in something her man bought her, and the man benefiting from the gift by making his woman feel special; however, buying lingerie for her can be tricky.
You have to realize that not all lingerie is romantic, for example, something like, say, crotchless panties and baby doll tops could be seen as slutty and more of a gift for you takes the romance right out of it. When it comes to this gift, you have to think sensuous and you need to know what sort of lingerie your your woman would like.
Take a look at the lingerie she already owns and see if she wears lacy thongs, camis and baby dolls or if she tends to stick with silk, satin and lace robes, slip dresses and simple bra tops with matching panties. Remember that part of your woman feeling sexy is feeling comfortable. If the item you buy her is too tight, falls off of her or is made of cheap material that irritates her skin, it defeats the purpose. If you don’t know her size, include the gift receipt so that she can exchange it.
When she's wearing the lingerie you selected for her, tell her how beautiful you think she is and how good she looks in it. Expressing how much you like her body in her new items may encourage her to be happier with her self image, awaken her sexuality and could be even more fun for you when she wears them!
You have to realize that not all lingerie is romantic, for example, something like, say, crotchless panties and baby doll tops could be seen as slutty and more of a gift for you takes the romance right out of it. When it comes to this gift, you have to think sensuous and you need to know what sort of lingerie your your woman would like.
Take a look at the lingerie she already owns and see if she wears lacy thongs, camis and baby dolls or if she tends to stick with silk, satin and lace robes, slip dresses and simple bra tops with matching panties. Remember that part of your woman feeling sexy is feeling comfortable. If the item you buy her is too tight, falls off of her or is made of cheap material that irritates her skin, it defeats the purpose. If you don’t know her size, include the gift receipt so that she can exchange it.
When she's wearing the lingerie you selected for her, tell her how beautiful you think she is and how good she looks in it. Expressing how much you like her body in her new items may encourage her to be happier with her self image, awaken her sexuality and could be even more fun for you when she wears them!
Thursday, December 24, 2009
The Bald Look
Women of all ages have been shifting their idea of what makes a man hot, and a lot of them will admit that bald is sexy. Women everywhere have learned that hair doesn't make the man. In fact, some hairstyles on men can be off putting. And yes, women would prefer that a man embrace his hair loss issues rather than hide behind a horrible comb over, cheap toupee or poorly placed plugs.
Baldness, when embraced rather than artificially covered up, promotes an aura of rugged masculinity and confidence. To most women, male confidence is hot regardless of the amount of hair a guy has or doesn't have. The majority of women do not care if you are bald and actually feel that a bald man is more free-spirited and low maintenance. Most women would probably choose a bald man with self-confidence over a Fabio with self-esteem issues who clutters the medicine cabinet with male beauty products.
Women have preferences just like men, so let's face it--not all women will love you as a bald man. The bald look is going to look good on some guys and downright goofy on others. On the other hand, any woman who is focused on your hair is ignoring your better qualities anyway.
Baldness, when embraced rather than artificially covered up, promotes an aura of rugged masculinity and confidence. To most women, male confidence is hot regardless of the amount of hair a guy has or doesn't have. The majority of women do not care if you are bald and actually feel that a bald man is more free-spirited and low maintenance. Most women would probably choose a bald man with self-confidence over a Fabio with self-esteem issues who clutters the medicine cabinet with male beauty products.
Women have preferences just like men, so let's face it--not all women will love you as a bald man. The bald look is going to look good on some guys and downright goofy on others. On the other hand, any woman who is focused on your hair is ignoring your better qualities anyway.
Monday, December 21, 2009
Who Should Pay on a Date?
You ask a woman out, you pay. That’s how it goes. But what happens when you've taken a woman out on several expensive dates at some really nice places and she hasn’t once even offered to put a dime into the evenings?
Not so long ago, the answer to the "who should pay?" question was a fairly easy one, but that's not the case anymore. These days, men should think critically about this and question it. The ideal dating scenario consists of both sides working together to make things works. Although with the traditional etiquette of a gentleman, guys have always been taught that it's the right thing to do, there does come a time when the financial load should be shared.
While many women feel that they should never pay for a date until they're in a committed relationship, it doesn't hurt for a woman to at least offer to pick up the tab or even offer to help pay the tab every now and then.
First couple of dates aside, though, men shouldn't expect to pay for every date during the first couple of months. If she initiates the date, allowing her to pay when shows that she has respect to you and it makes a statement of equality for her. If you've been together for a while and she just continues to push that check across the table for you to take care of, that should be your sign that she's just using you.
Friday, December 18, 2009
Being a Challenge to Women
While most women will admit that they like a man who is a challenge, most guys will ignore this and make mistakes that run women off, i.e., bombarding her with phone calls and text messages, making themselves too available, being overly nice and agreeable ( a wuss) and expressing their feelings early on.
When a man is too available and says yes all the time, there is a good chance a woman won’t like it and see it as a sign of weakness or lack of confidence. If a woman thinks she has you figured out and can get you too easily, she will get bored. By learning to keep mystery in your dating, you'll create a challenge for women and really engage their mind's and emotions.
Creating a challenge for a woman means making yourself important in her eyes by not being too accessible and keeping her waiting--but not too long, or someone else might beat you to her! Feed her a little bit, but keep her curiosity growing and her interest in you will do the same. By doing that you will always keep a woman guessing which is good, because you will always be on her mind.
Have you ever heard the expression about absence making the heart grow fonder? Well, it's true. You have to give her a chance to miss you, and the anticipation alone of meeting you again will make the next meeting between the two of you that much more exciting.
So let her wonder where you are, whom you're with and where you're going, and she will hope to cross paths with you more often than you think. Remember the laws of attraction. Women don't feel attraction for men that are predictable--they feel attraction for men who are a challenge.
Monday, December 14, 2009
5 Signs of a Desperate Woman
Women have a desire to be loved and cared for, yet there are some things that desperate women do that can actually mess up their dating lives and cause men to become distant and aloof. Here's a list of 5 warning signs to help you determine if a woman is desperate for a date or relationship.
1. She wants everything you want
At first, having a woman who wants whatever you want, thinks whatever you think seems great. Soon enough, you'll get tired of dating someone without opinions, without interests and without an identity.
2. She has no particular type of guy
A desperate woman is not looking for that certain someone so much as she's looking for that certain anyone. She's a persistent serial dater and her past is a continuous series of relationships--and all of her boyfriends are very different from each other.
3. She's on a self-imposed timeline
A desperate woman wants to get married as soon as possible and will have everything planned for the sucker that falls into her trap. After just a couple of dates, she'll want you to meet her parents, and after a few more weeks, she'll be telling "I love you." The next week, she'll be picking out the color of her bridesmaids’ dresses and the names of her future children.
4. She's constantly fishing for compliments
The desperate woman has emotional baggage, low self-esteem, a poor self-image and needs to constantly hear how great she is and be assured of things. It won't take long for you to get tired of constantly stroking her ego.
5. She will overly call, email, and text you
The desperate woman makes the fatal mistake of overly calling, emailing or sending you text messages early in a relationship, even when you haven't returned any of her messages. What these women don't realize is that guys find it annoying when they're having their phone blown up with excessive calls, text messages and emails more than several times a day.
Saturday, December 12, 2009
4 Excuses Women Use in the Bedroom
For guys, one of the benefits of being in a long-term relationship is that you have a woman that you can depend on for regular sex. Some women have sex with a guy in the beginning of the relationship to "land him," but once they have him where they want him, they don't feel that they need to have sex with him anymore.
While some manipulative women make a habit of withholding sex from their partners, others avoid sexual contact under very specific circumstances. Here are some of the top excuses women use to get out of sex with their men and see what each one means.
1. "I'm too tired"
Maybe your woman isn't interested in sex because she is just overwhelmed with obligations lately, i.e. work, workouts, classes, cleaning the apartment and cooking you dinner. It may also be a case of you wanting to do it more often than she does, and she just can’t keep up. Other life demands might be stressing her out and keeping her busy too, making her too worn out to enjoy sex as often as you’d like. Although she may be tired from all these activities, this line could also be translated as "You're not worth staying awake for".
2. "I'm not in the mood"
Could be a good reason, especially if she's sick, irritated or just simply having a bad day. On the other hand could also be translated as "You don't get me off anymore". If your girlfriend refuses to have sex with you, it could be that she's tired of the same routine every time and simply has lost interest in sex with you. So instead of telling you what’s wrong, she might just close up shop.
3. "I've got a headache"
Having a headache once in awhile is okay, that means it's a real reason; however, having that same headache every time you initiate turns in to excuse and translates into her simply withholding sex from you.
4. "I'm mad at you"
The last thing a woman wants to do when she’s mad, sad, frustrated, annoyed is get busy between the sheets. Probably the most common reason that women withhold sex, most women cannot be intimate with a man they're angry with. When your girlfriend is mad at you, the solution is to find out why she’s upset and try to fix it. Sometimes simply acknowledging that you’ve done something wrong is enough to make her calm down.
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Sunday, December 6, 2009
Meeting Her Dad
One of the most crucial points in a relationship can be when you get to meet your girlfriend’s dad. The bond between a father and daughter is very special, so with that in mind, making a bad first impression when meeting her dad can ruin your chances of getting to the next stage in your relationship.
If you've been with your girlfriend for a while, you probably know some things about her father already; however, if you don't, ask your girlfriend about some basic things about him, i.e., his line of work, whether he's serious or has a sense of humor, etc.. Finding out as much as you can about her father will show her that you are interested in her family life, especially if you two are making the transition to the serious stage.
When meeting her dad for the first time, remember that you will be judged by everything, especially your appearance matters. Going to meet her dad in shorts filled with holes or acid-washed jeans, a wife-beater and flip-flops is not a good idea. On the other hand, you don't have to wear a suit and tie either-- just be presentable. Dress smart but casual, get a fresh haircut and trim your nails. Make sure everything is clean and neat, nothing too baggy.
Most men, especially older ones, judge another man by the way he shakes hands, so give the him a firm handshake. You must also be able to carry on a conversation, so when you meet him anticipate the most difficult questions, i.e., your plans for your future, your background, your ability to take care of yourself (and his daughter) and mainly your commitment to his daughter. Avoid heavy or controversial subjects; this is not the time to air views on politics. But if you are asked for your opinion, be honest, but don't be 'Yes' man.
Although you should be considerate of your girlfriend at all times, be extra polite and considerate of her in her father's presence. Pull back her chair for her at dinner, open doors for her, etc.. Her dad should see you treating his daughter like the princess that he believes she is, not the hottie you believe her to be.
When it's time to leave, you must close the deal and leave her dad with a good impression. Remain confident, let him know that you had a great time, and give him another firm exit handshake--the kind that says " I can take care of your daughter". If your a younger couple and he says something like, “Have her home by midnight,” let him know that you will have her home earlier than that curfew.
Impressing her mom is one thing, but fathers will always have a harder time accepting any new man in their daughter's life. Her dad will always be an obstacle, but if tackled properly, you can get on his good side and stay there.
If you've been with your girlfriend for a while, you probably know some things about her father already; however, if you don't, ask your girlfriend about some basic things about him, i.e., his line of work, whether he's serious or has a sense of humor, etc.. Finding out as much as you can about her father will show her that you are interested in her family life, especially if you two are making the transition to the serious stage.
When meeting her dad for the first time, remember that you will be judged by everything, especially your appearance matters. Going to meet her dad in shorts filled with holes or acid-washed jeans, a wife-beater and flip-flops is not a good idea. On the other hand, you don't have to wear a suit and tie either-- just be presentable. Dress smart but casual, get a fresh haircut and trim your nails. Make sure everything is clean and neat, nothing too baggy.
Most men, especially older ones, judge another man by the way he shakes hands, so give the him a firm handshake. You must also be able to carry on a conversation, so when you meet him anticipate the most difficult questions, i.e., your plans for your future, your background, your ability to take care of yourself (and his daughter) and mainly your commitment to his daughter. Avoid heavy or controversial subjects; this is not the time to air views on politics. But if you are asked for your opinion, be honest, but don't be 'Yes' man.
Although you should be considerate of your girlfriend at all times, be extra polite and considerate of her in her father's presence. Pull back her chair for her at dinner, open doors for her, etc.. Her dad should see you treating his daughter like the princess that he believes she is, not the hottie you believe her to be.
When it's time to leave, you must close the deal and leave her dad with a good impression. Remain confident, let him know that you had a great time, and give him another firm exit handshake--the kind that says " I can take care of your daughter". If your a younger couple and he says something like, “Have her home by midnight,” let him know that you will have her home earlier than that curfew.
Impressing her mom is one thing, but fathers will always have a harder time accepting any new man in their daughter's life. Her dad will always be an obstacle, but if tackled properly, you can get on his good side and stay there.
Saturday, December 5, 2009
Dating a Divorced Woman
Dating a woman who's been married before is a bit different than dating someone who's never been married. You may wonder why a man in his right senses would let such a jewel slip through his fingers. Although there are two sides to every story, keep in mind that there may be some serious reasons why she is divorced. When dating a divorced woman be cautious and take early precautions.
First off, take it slow and realize that this is no doubt a very confusing and difficult time for her. Women with emotional baggage can be very vulnerable at this point, so give her time to heal and sort through her emotions. If you want the relationship to move forward , take this opportunity to learn more about her and avoid rushing into things and become too attached. You also have to recognize that because of at least one bad experience with a man, this, she may be a bit careful and more protective of her emotions, no matter how well you treat her.
After being with someone for a long period of time, it can be extremely difficult to be alone, so make sure that she's not just jumping into a relationship with you just because she's lonely. Another issue is that she could still have feelings for her ex, and it's always a possibility that if her ex tries to come back into her life, she may take him back.
Check to see if she still wears her wedding ring. If she does, that could be a sign that she isn't quite ready to start dating yet. Is it marriage she wants or is it just a casual fling that she is pursuing? Talk with her to see where she sees this relationship going and make sure that you're not just the fall guy.
If she's a divorced mother, you must understand that the relationship is a package deal. Being faced with the scope of her parenting responsibilities may take away from the romance between the two of you. Remember, when dating a single mom, make every effort to make a good impression on her kids and no matter how you feel about her ex, NEVER badmouth him in front of their children. This will cause your date's children to resent you and that will greatly lower the odds of your relationship working out and progressing.
It is indeed possible to have a great and fulfilling relationship with a divorced woman, just remember to take it slow, evaluate what you really want and see what happens from there.
First off, take it slow and realize that this is no doubt a very confusing and difficult time for her. Women with emotional baggage can be very vulnerable at this point, so give her time to heal and sort through her emotions. If you want the relationship to move forward , take this opportunity to learn more about her and avoid rushing into things and become too attached. You also have to recognize that because of at least one bad experience with a man, this, she may be a bit careful and more protective of her emotions, no matter how well you treat her.
After being with someone for a long period of time, it can be extremely difficult to be alone, so make sure that she's not just jumping into a relationship with you just because she's lonely. Another issue is that she could still have feelings for her ex, and it's always a possibility that if her ex tries to come back into her life, she may take him back.
Check to see if she still wears her wedding ring. If she does, that could be a sign that she isn't quite ready to start dating yet. Is it marriage she wants or is it just a casual fling that she is pursuing? Talk with her to see where she sees this relationship going and make sure that you're not just the fall guy.
If she's a divorced mother, you must understand that the relationship is a package deal. Being faced with the scope of her parenting responsibilities may take away from the romance between the two of you. Remember, when dating a single mom, make every effort to make a good impression on her kids and no matter how you feel about her ex, NEVER badmouth him in front of their children. This will cause your date's children to resent you and that will greatly lower the odds of your relationship working out and progressing.
It is indeed possible to have a great and fulfilling relationship with a divorced woman, just remember to take it slow, evaluate what you really want and see what happens from there.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Why Men Should Keep Their Hands Groomed
The state of your hands tells a lot about your general cleanliness and hygiene. A woman loves a well-groomed man, and you can bet that she'll be checking out your hands and fingernails before she lets you rub them all over her body. No woman wants to be touched with rough, jagged-edged fingernails and the last thing you want to do is cut or scratch your lady.
Most guys think that caring for their hands is for the metrosexual man; however, manicures have become more accepted as part of a man's overall grooming. A big part of keeping yourself up includes maintaining healthy hands and fingernails because do so portrays confidence and most importantly, cleanliness. You don't have to be the "Metrosexual Man" or even necessarily need to get weekly manicures to keep your hands in good shape, but you at least need to use a nail clipper to trim them and a nail file to make sure there are no blunt edges.
The recommended length for a man's fingernails is generally 1 to 2 millimeters. Any more than that is not very aesthetically pleasing. If you enjoy exploring your lady's secret garden, you must realize that if your hands aren't clean, she won't let you anywhere near her soft spot and risk giving her an infection. The vagina is fleshy and dirt may cause infection while jagged fingernails may cause internal bodily harm to your woman.
Naturally, if you cleaned yourself well in the shower, there likely won't be any dirt in your fingernails. But if there is, dig it out! Remember, you can be smart, funny, and handsome, but if you can't take care of basic hygiene-- forget it.
How to Spot a Gold Digger
When starting a relationship, sometimes it takes days, weeks or even months before you discover a woman's true intentions. It's difficult to spot a gold digger from the first encounter because they can hide their true selves much deeper than their outer skin. Here are some ways to spot a gold digger.
The female gold digger is usually an attractive woman who has a large pool of potential mates to choose from. Gold digger women tend to talk a lot and usually give themselves away during the first few minutes of a date. Most gold diggers dress like high-class call girls, but talk like college professors.
Gold diggers are very manipulative women who mainly prey on men that have nice, exotic cars and plenty of income to spend on them and support their lifestyle. They focus conversations on your assets, such as the house you live in, the car you drive or the business you own. Gold diggers pretend to be interested in you by asking questions about your occupation so they can discover your job title and measure your earnings' potential.
The life of a gold digger is usually spent trying to get all they can out of a man so they don't have to work themselves. The average gold digger doesn't seem to have any income and cannot or will not hold a job. When it comes time to pick up the check for a dinner, a movie or just about anything else the two of you are undertaking-- she is nowhere to be found. No matter how much you spend, it's never enough and they always want more. Other signs of a gold digger are traits like having a lack sincerity, honesty and responsibility.
Gold diggers normally come on strong and leave no doubt that they are interested in your financial status and possessions and they like to move relationships forward
Although you may be looking for the opportunity to boost your ego by dating extremely beautiful and high maintenance women, you need to listen to your intuition. Does your woman have a steady job? Is she up to her neck in debt and/or refuses to answer direct questions about money? If something is telling you that things aren't right and that she may be a gold digger, she probably is. Don't sacrifice happiness to be with a beautiful gold digger, or you may end up crying the rest of your life.
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Dating a Tomboy
If you ever find yourself falling for a beautiful tomboy, don't be in a rush to make rash generalizations about them. Although they may enjoy more masculine traits, they can also be very beautiful and have a girly side. The tomboy may not wear short skirts, dresses and a lot of jewelry, but she can still look very attractive.
Most tomboys are athletic, would rather hang out with guys and play sports rather than go shopping with girls. Very much like you, she's into sports, computers and has more guy friends than girlfriends. Their wardrobe mainly consists of sweatpants, t-shirts, shorts and sneakers. They resist conventional feminine standards--avoiding pink clothes, lipstick, and nail polish--and often excel in sports.
A large number of guys find tomboys attractive;however, a big mistake men make when dealing with tomboys is assuming that they have no interest in romance and passion. Although she may not be a high maintenance woman who's into getting her nails done, lots of jewelry or does not follow the latest fashion trends, being a tomboy doesn’t stop her from being a woman and wanting to be treated with respect and sensitivity.
Tomboys can be sexy in their own right and way and often get mislabeled as bi-sexual or lesbians just because they're different from the average "girly-girl". Most of the time a tomboy will be friends with a guy before she starts liking him and once they do become romantically interested, they tend to get more uptight around guys they like because they want you to think of them as women.
Remember, a tomboy might have a hard shell, but she is a woman after all. When dating a tomboy, she might take time to open up, but she is also loving and compassionate like other girls. If you show you’re willing to treat her like the lady she is, you will score big points for seeing past the whole tomboy image.
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